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Help me interpret this email! I received an email from a man I've been dating in response to something I said to him about my feelings. He replied "I absorbed your note without the dignity of its own response." What does that mean?
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08.06.09, 08:48 AM [ Flag ]
- You would have to give us the context of your email and feelings you were expressing. If your note was a long one and this one line response is all that he sent then he is pissed
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  08.06.09, 08:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Sounds like he's mixing up that he will not dignify your note with a response... Did you say something hurtful?
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  - I think because 'dignify' is in there he meant to write what he meant to write - unless he meant to say he will not dignify if WITH a response. But you have to be pretty stupid to write what he did and mean the former
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    08.06.09, 08:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- LOL! What did you write to him?
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  08.06.09, 08:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- i'm with you -- i don't think that sentence makes sense, standing alone.
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  08.06.09, 08:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - op: I expressed my feelings toward him pretty honestly. We've been having this back/forth and I just put it on the table. I would have said that I didn't write anything "hurtful" but in retrospect, it may have been... I confessed to having really strong feelings for him when I probably shouldn't due to our history (too long a story to write here) Now how do you interpret it?
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    08.06.09, 08:56 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Then I would read it that he read your note but do not plan on responding. You should send him to a writing workshop.
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      08.06.09, 08:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - LOL I love you.
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        08.06.09, 09:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - I think he is an a$$hole
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      08.06.09, 09:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - I think he misspoke/typed and meant to say that he's not going to dignify your note with a response (i.e., he is not going to respond). you should sit down and talk. but i have to say, if you've got a long history of back and forth and issues, etc., etc., he may not be the one. ime, guys who know what they want jump on and seal the deal. you may find more happiness elsewhere. gl.
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      08.06.09, 09:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - op: so right you are! But actually, he knew what he wanted back then (me) and did try and seal the deal, but i walked away. Now the situation is reversed so that's why I think my saying what I did was hurtful. I mean really, how dare I? But it was bothering me enough not being truthful that I just came clean.
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        08.06.09, 09:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        invite him to sit down and talk and let him know your email may have come out the wrong way. talk it through. and then leave it to him. you can lead a horse to water, but if he doesn't drink, let him dehydrate and find another horse!
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        08.06.09, 09:07 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        op: I think my note was the leading and it was enough. That being said, we had talked the other night (before my email!) about having lunch at this place we both like sometime soon and in the same email I quoted above, he said he was busy this week but would take me up on it another time. WTF?
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        08.06.09, 09:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        i would move on. he doesn't sound like he's interested in pursuing this.
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        08.06.09, 09:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - I interpret that your boyfriend does not have a college education
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      08.06.09, 09:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - op: you are all making me laugh! He's actually Harvard educated, believe it or not! AND was a journalist for years!! Oh, thanks for making me smile at least.
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        08.06.09, 09:05 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- sounds like he needs a lesson in english grammar!
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  08.06.09, 08:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- he got your point but does not care enough to respond.
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  08.06.09, 08:55 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - or thinks replying will lead to a big fight and just wants to let it lie.
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    08.06.09, 08:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I agree.
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    08.06.09, 08:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- He read your note but does not think that it deserves a response but want you to know it was received and read
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  08.06.09, 08:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I think what he meant to say is that he read your note, but "it doesn't deserve the dignity of a respose".
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  08.06.09, 09:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- it means he's an idiot who tries too hard to sound literary
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  08.06.09, 09:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - ITA. Pseudointellectual asshole. Reminds me of the harvard tour guide woman on NYC prep
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    08.06.09, 09:49 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - op: See my note above. Harvard grad, former journalist. go figure.
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      08.06.09, 10:28 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- that english isn't his first language
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  08.06.09, 09:24 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - Hey now, English isn't my first language, either. Not all of us are illiterate.
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    08.06.09, 09:52 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - I know, but what he said truly sounds like a babel fish translation
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      08.06.09, 10:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I think it means he's sort of a jerk and you're better off without him, but should be planning on moving on regardless.
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  08.06.09, 09:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Avoid men whose command of written English is not as great as they imagine.
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Help me interpret this email! I received an email from a man I've been dating in response to something I said to him about my feelings. He replied "I absorbed your note without the dignity of its own response." What does that mean?

You would have to give us the context of your email and feelings you were expressing. If your note was a long one and this one line response is all that he sent then he is pissed

Sounds like he's mixing up that he will not dignify your note with a response... Did you say something hurtful?

I think because 'dignify' is in there he meant to write what he meant to write - unless he meant to say he will not dignify if WITH a response. But you have to be pretty stupid to write what he did and mean the former

LOL! What did you write to him?

i'm with you -- i don't think that sentence makes sense, standing alone.

Then I would read it that he read your note but do not plan on responding. You should send him to a writing workshop.

LOL I love you.

I think he is an a$$hole

invite him to sit down and talk and let him know your email may have come out the wrong way. talk it through. and then leave it to him. you can lead a horse to water, but if he doesn't drink, let him dehydrate and find another horse!

op: I think my note was the leading and it was enough. That being said, we had talked the other night (before my email!) about having lunch at this place we both like sometime soon and in the same email I quoted above, he said he was busy this week but would take me up on it another time. WTF?

i would move on. he doesn't sound like he's interested in pursuing this.

I interpret that your boyfriend does not have a college education

op: you are all making me laugh! He's actually Harvard educated, believe it or not! AND was a journalist for years!! Oh, thanks for making me smile at least.

sounds like he needs a lesson in english grammar!

he got your point but does not care enough to respond.

or thinks replying will lead to a big fight and just wants to let it lie.

I agree.

He read your note but does not think that it deserves a response but want you to know it was received and read

I think what he meant to say is that he read your note, but "it doesn't deserve the dignity of a respose".

it means he's an idiot who tries too hard to sound literary

ITA. Pseudointellectual asshole. Reminds me of the harvard tour guide woman on NYC prep

op: See my note above. Harvard grad, former journalist. go figure.

that english isn't his first language

Hey now, English isn't my first language, either. Not all of us are illiterate.

I know, but what he said truly sounds like a babel fish translation

I think it means he's sort of a jerk and you're better off without him, but should be planning on moving on regardless.

Avoid men whose command of written English is not as great as they imagine.

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