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I know this topic has been beat to death but I can't help thinking about the brother and his wife of diane schuler...how can they handle this, how can they go on living? I think if all my dcs were murdered like that - by a family member, no less - I would commit suicide.

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  • I know this topic has been beat to death but I can't help thinking about the brother and his wife of diane schuler...how can they handle this, how can they go on living? I think if all my dcs were murdered like that - by a family member, no less - I would commit suicide.

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    • I think she will just get pregnant again, don't you?

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      08.06.09, 08:02 AM Flag
      • do you really think that makes it any better.

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        08.06.09, 08:05 AM Flag
      • np They'll end up divorced inside the next 6 months to a year.

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        08.06.09, 10:27 AM Flag
        • ^^^And if my dh's sister killed my kids and herself, I've got to say, I might project my rage on to him in a big way.

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          08.06.09, 10:30 AM Flag
          • np: agreed. I know I'd have to take it out on someone and considering it was his sister...

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            08.06.09, 11:38 AM Flag
    • They are going to need a lot of emotional help. There is a really great group which helps parents work through the grief of losing a child. I wish I could think of the name. But nothing will ever, ever be the same again for them.

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      08.06.09, 08:05 AM Flag
    • I doubt you would commit suicide. Horrific things happen to people in this world each and every day. You just keep waking up and put one foot in front of the other. That's human nature.

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      08.06.09, 08:07 AM Flag
    • i can't get this accident out of my mind. when a tragedy happens you move forward because you have to. but when you loose your entire family-- it would be hard to find a reason. i can't imagine becoming preganant after loosing 3 kids. it would be too hard-- and on the new baby too.

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      08.06.09, 08:23 AM Flag
    • It's like that woman whose child was killed at Columbine. She wanted to commit suicide and the only reason she didn't go through with it was because she had 3 other children to raise. She says she still thinks about doing it, especially when the grief gets too much for her. The brain and the heart can only do so much to make sense of the senseless. I remember there was a book out about Holocaust survivors who committed suicide later in life and the author was trying to explain psychologically why person who survived something so terrible would do this.

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      08.06.09, 08:23 AM Flag
      • dh and i were just talking about this. depression hit a lot of holocaust survivors later on. immediately after the war, they were just concentrating on putting one foot ahead of the other. it was only years later that they looked around and started thinking about everything they lost.

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        08.06.09, 08:25 AM Flag
      • np: Yes, but the Hance's now have NO CHILDREN. All three of their kids are gone and what if she can't get pg again? That gives only each other to live for and frankly, I would consider suicide as well if I were in her shoes. I know a couple that lost one of their four children and they both wanted to die, but again, kept on for the remaining three. Pretty certain they would've committed suicide if they didn't have the other children. Sad as it is, the grief is overwhelming, so I just hope they get the help they need to carry on.

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        08.06.09, 08:44 AM Flag
        • I lost two chidren unexpectedly and feeling like you want to die and actually doing yourself in are a far cry from each other. Mentally healthy people do not kill themselves. I think it is important for people to remember this.

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          08.06.09, 11:30 AM Flag
          • I am so sorry for your incredibly losses. And speaking as a therapist, you are correct. Huge distinction.

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            08.06.09, 11:58 AM Flag
          • I'm so sorry.

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            08.06.09, 02:31 PM Flag
    • I would take meds to get through it.

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      08.06.09, 08:39 AM Flag
      • i was telling dh last night, i would need to be sedated for a long time, seriously, i don't know how they get up in the morning

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        08.06.09, 10:21 AM Flag
    • They weren't 'murdered' but yes it is tragic

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      08.06.09, 08:42 AM Flag
      • its almost worse. they left their children in the care of someone who was mentally unstable. and she killed them.

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        08.06.09, 10:23 AM Flag
      • Yes they were, actually.

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        08.06.09, 10:25 AM Flag
        • np: you think she did it with intent to kill them all?

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          08.06.09, 10:27 AM Flag
          • anyone who drinks and gets behind the wheel of a car is using that car as a murder weapon

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            08.06.09, 10:29 AM Flag
      • Yes they must certainly were murdered. If she wasn't on a suicide mission, then it was criminally negligent homicide.

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        08.06.09, 10:27 AM Flag
        • The guy who drove drunk and killed the chauffeur and little flower girl was found guilty of murder through depraved indifference to human life. She didn't need to have intent.

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          08.06.09, 12:29 PM Flag
    • And imagine on top of all that, you have people all over the country gossiping about your life and saying they would commit suicide if they were you. How hard would that be?

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      08.06.09, 10:25 AM Flag
      • if you dont want to gossip about it then get off UB love.

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        08.06.09, 10:28 AM Flag
      • Yes, I'm sure they're on UB and other chat rooms as we speak. Get real, they are heavily medicated and being watched day and night.

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        08.06.09, 10:40 AM Flag
    • the whole situation just doesn't make sense - i feel like there is so much we don't know, may never know, or will be uncovered in time

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      08.06.09, 10:30 AM Flag
      • kind of like EVERYTHING ELSE THAT'S OUT THERE.

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        08.06.09, 10:31 AM Flag
    • this story reminds me a little of the madeline mcann story. tragedy that happened to someone's kids that could have been avoided if the parents had been a little more on top of things. worse kind of tragedy imo

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      08.06.09, 10:52 AM Flag
      • except that madeline mcann's parents killed her.

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        08.06.09, 11:59 AM Flag
        • I believe this too.

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          08.06.09, 12:09 PM Flag
        • what do you think their motive was, if you believe they killed her?

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          08.06.09, 12:13 PM Flag
          • it was accidental. they wanted her to sleep while they were out at dinner so they gave her a double dose of nighttime cough medicine or benadryl. the mom is a physician and thought for sure she knew what she was doing. they came back and she was dead.

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            08.06.09, 01:08 PM Flag
      • np There's a new lead in that case. Press conference was today.

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        08.06.09, 01:19 PM Flag
    • There's got to be some form of guilt..."if i just didn't let them go with her (Diane Schuler), they'd still be here..." It would be hard to get past that kind of thinking; to get that out of your head.

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      08.06.09, 01:34 PM Flag
    • I'm thinking of this all the time too. I think the same thing. I couldn't go on living. the husband though has his son to take care of... (that that I think anyone should kill him/herself!) I just can't imagine the hell they are going through.

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      08.06.09, 02:29 PM Flag
      • sorry "NOT that I think anyone should..." I do hope they make it through this okay.

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        08.06.09, 02:30 PM Flag
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