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Do you smoke pot? I'm constantly surprised by how many professional people in the 30s and 40s with families I encounter who still get high.

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  • Do you smoke pot? I'm constantly surprised by how many professional people in the 30s and 40s with families I encounter who still get high.

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    • No but DH did

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      08.06.09, 07:19 AM Flag
      • ditto.

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        08.06.09, 07:21 AM Flag
        • ^^oh, not now but back in HS/some in undergrad

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          08.06.09, 07:21 AM Flag
          • no mine did up until last month!

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            08.06.09, 07:25 AM Flag
    • better than drinking IMO

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      08.06.09, 07:22 AM Flag
    • no. and i don't tend to like the stoner types who do.

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      08.06.09, 07:24 AM Flag
      • we don't like you either

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        08.06.09, 07:28 AM Flag
        • fine by me. just don't smoke it around my dcs as you do around yours.

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          08.06.09, 07:28 AM Flag
          • np: i don't think most parents who smoke pot do it around their children. the ones who do are in the minority. you probably do have friends that smoke and just don't know it.

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            08.06.09, 07:29 AM Flag
          • my children have never seen me smoke

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            08.06.09, 07:30 AM Flag
            • but they've smelled you smoke. nice contact high you're giving them, btw.

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              08.06.09, 07:33 AM Flag
              • nnp: wow, you really don't know anything about pot, do you?

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                08.06.09, 07:34 AM Flag
                • ^^not a smoker and still think you sound crazy.

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                  08.06.09, 07:34 AM Flag
                • enlighten us because I smoked up a storm in HS and contact highs are possible

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                  08.06.09, 07:35 AM Flag
                  • from your parent smoking pot in another room, probably when the child is not home? doubt it.

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                    08.06.09, 07:39 AM Flag
                    • When the dc is not home sure but the above poster is assuming you smoke when dc is home. Whether you do or you don't dc will find it, smell it at some point and try it. If that is fine with you then its fine with you. To each their own. I would prefer my DC not be with your dc when that happens but do as you like

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                      08.06.09, 07:42 AM Flag
                      • sorry, you replied to me, the nnp. i don't smoke pot, i'm just saying, i don't think the contact high thing is something to worry about. not wanting to have your kid try pot, sure. but the contact high thing made me laugh.

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                        08.06.09, 07:44 AM Flag
                  • contact highs are possible, but there needs to be a lot of smoke and you need to be right in it. i don't see that happening here.

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                    08.06.09, 07:41 AM Flag
                  • parents who still smoke (i am OR) aren't sitting around a room in a cloud of smoke staring at lava lamps & listening to the doors...it's more like, put the kids to bed, have dinner, straighten up the house & then take a hit or 2 to relax while watching tv or reading before bed...you should be comparing it to a glass or 2 of wine, not to your stoned teen days

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                    08.06.09, 07:46 AM Flag
                    • except that my dc in the next room isn't breathing the fumes of my wine.

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                      08.06.09, 01:03 PM Flag
                • seriously, that contact high comment automatically disqualifies you from participating in an intelligent conversation about marijuana

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                  08.06.09, 07:44 AM Flag
              • OR from below, I think you can do your best to hide it but DCs are smart and intuitive. We always knew something odd was going on in our friends houses and by the time we were 9 or 10 we knew what it was and then we started stealing it

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                08.06.09, 07:34 AM Flag
                • and where was the harm in that?

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                  08.06.09, 07:35 AM Flag
                  • We were smoking an illegal drug at TEN that is what is wrong with that and by the time our peers were we had already moved on to something else a) because we were bored with it b) our parents didn't find it rebellious so we needed to find something else to rebel with and c) we wanted to always be ahead of the cool curve

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                    08.06.09, 07:36 AM Flag
                    • you probably would have gone on to do that even absent the pot, though. did the pot itself make you rebellious? make you want to be ahead of the cool curve?

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                      08.06.09, 07:40 AM Flag
                      • Pot did not make me rebellious, adolescence did. What made me want to be ahead of the curve earlier or at all was starting so young and doing something that my parents condoned and that if I was caught with I could easily throw in their faces that they did it so back off. That did not provide the level of authority needed to make me think twice at 12. This is basic.

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                        08.06.09, 07:47 AM Flag
                    • i did all of that stuff and my parents didn't smoke... do you think it was really your parents having it in the house (and not other things) that made you act the way you did?

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                      08.06.09, 07:42 AM Flag
                      • I think having regular and condoned access to it years before I would have normally - and I grew up in NYC - absolutely catapulted me into the realm of other more dangerous drugs when I would not have normally felt the pressure to one up my friends in that respect.

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                        08.06.09, 07:45 AM Flag
                        • np: I'm like above. My dad worked in drug treatment setting (think Phoenix House) and I was the first of my group of friends to try the drug de jure.

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                          08.06.09, 08:04 AM Flag
                        • I had the opposite experience. My parents smoked pot, had it in the house, turns out I could care less about it. It made it not a rebellious thing to do, so I skipped it for years, until 20 or so.

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                          08.06.09, 11:44 PM Flagged
                        • this is my experience too! anything my parents would do... very uncool.

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                    08.06.09, 11:42 PM Flag
      • Me neither though I smoked in HS. There is something wrong with doing something illegal at this age at home with DCS who trust me, know and are absorbing it as a lesson

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        08.06.09, 07:30 AM Flag
        • by this standard, having any type of domestic help who is paid cash would be setting your children up for a life of tax evasion

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          08.06.09, 07:31 AM Flag
          • That is quite a stretch and not parallel at all. I think you know that but it was a nice try

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            08.06.09, 07:33 AM Flag
            • np: actually I think this poster draws quite a nice parallel illustrating that if you really believe kids are absorbing everything as lesson, you should be paying your nanny legally. not such a stretch, it just obvously makes your uncomfortable

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              08.06.09, 07:36 AM Flag
              • Nothing we are discussing makes me uncomfortable and plenty of my friends smoke pot What I am saying is that smoke in the house and mom and dad acting silly is far more evident to children or anyone for that matter than whether or not mom and dad pay nanny off the books which, for the most part, you cannot smell, see, or sense now can you?

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                08.06.09, 07:40 AM Flag
                • So hiding illegality from them is the difference?

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                  08.06.09, 07:43 AM Flag
                • most adults who smoke pot don't "act silly." they smoke a little to relax.

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                  08.06.09, 07:43 AM Flag
                  • I don't think you can judge that considering you are high.

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                    08.06.09, 07:48 AM Flag
                    • i don't smoke. i'm just not totally ignorant of the way things work!

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                      08.06.09, 08:01 AM Flag
                  • thank you for your sanity

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                    08.06.09, 07:59 AM Flag
                    • she is high! how does she know how she act?

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                      08.06.09, 08:00 AM Flag
                      • see above. don't smoke. just not crazy.

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                        08.06.09, 08:02 AM Flag
              • np. we paid our nanny legally when we had one and we don't smoke pot.

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                08.06.09, 07:41 AM Flag
                • back pat for you. relevance? poster was drawing a metaphor.

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                  08.06.09, 07:43 AM Flag
    • pretty much daily

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      08.06.09, 07:27 AM Flag
      • do you think you might have a problem?

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        08.06.09, 07:38 AM Flag
        • perhaps a mild one...but no more of a problem than a person who regularly has a drink after work or always has wine with dinner

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          08.06.09, 08:02 AM Flag
      • what do you do for a living?

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        08.06.09, 07:43 AM Flag
        • i manage a real estate investment portfolio

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          08.06.09, 08:03 AM Flag
      • OR: i will add that nearly everyone i know gets high...some get high once or twice a year...then there's my end of the spectrum...but it's dozens of couples who are successful professionals, wonderful parents, good marriages, etc....you want to make an argument about taking better care of your lungs, fine, but this other stuff on this thread is pretty misguided

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        08.06.09, 08:15 AM Flag
        • Not misguided in the slightest. Everything said on here in favor of not bringing DCs up in a household that condones drugs that could lead to other illegal substances holds a lot of water. That you do not agree doesn't not remove the validity of the argument.

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          08.06.09, 08:46 AM Flag
    • I don't yet bc db too young for me to feel comfortable but I miss it so much and don't feel like I ever truly relax.

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      08.06.09, 07:32 AM Flag
    • i still enjoy it, but very rarely, maybe 2 or 3 times a year. I just find it so hard to be productive when I'm high, and I have to be pretty productive as an adult. But I know some people who actually get MORE done when they're high, so it partly just depends on your makeup. If people are taking care of themselves and their families competently, I don't care what they use to make themselves happier.

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      08.06.09, 07:37 AM Flag
    • I did, then I graduated college and joined the real world. Haven't looked back since. What I do find reprehensible

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      08.06.09, 12:29 PM Flag
      • (hit the enter button by accident) is when parents held a party at their house for their dc and classmates (NYC junior high school) and offered the kids some joints. My dc wasn't there but I would have called the cops on them if dc had attended.

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        08.06.09, 12:33 PM Flag
        • np - I don't believe you. My dc is at a NYC public middle school. And by the way, we call it middle school here in NYC, or maybe, sometimes, IS. NOT junior high school.

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          08.06.09, 11:41 PM Flag
    • OP - I did a lot in college and my early 20s and then gradually just stopped. There seems to be a culture of it at my new job. The woman who crashed her car got me thinking that it's even more common then I thought.

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      08.06.09, 12:35 PM Flag
    • not asking for specifics but where do you buy it i don't think COSTCO carries it :)

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      08.07.09, 06:57 AM Flag
      • I have a friend who has a connection. This friend know someone who sells large amounts at a time and will deliver it. This friend then hooks me up on occasion.

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        08.07.09, 08:34 AM Flag
    • Yes. I do when my kids are not around or I step out on the porch while they are watching a TV show. Only a small amount and it really does help me slow down and connect with them. I find that after I smoke a small amount, I no longer worry about getting the house looking perfect but will gladly sit and play legos or do an art project with the kids.

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      08.07.09, 08:32 AM Flag
      • ^^BTW, I am a SAHM but before this I was an elementary school teacher and no I never went to work high.

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        08.07.09, 08:35 AM Flag
    • dh does and he is extrememly successful,

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      08.07.09, 08:35 AM Flag
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