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Ok this is meant to be on the lighter side... I realise this is nhot a big deal at all. But my DD is 3 and already has one of those boys who loves her but has a funny way of showing it (pushing her down, taking her stuff etc). On the other hand he cries when she doesn't show up for their shared activity and did a happy dance when he found out they are going to the same school... so yeah, I think it's love. I have visions of this relationship haunting her throughout grade school... remember those boys who teased & taunted you to death, and your Mom always said they liked you??? Did you buy it? I did not.
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08.06.09, 06:40 AM [ Flag ]
- i didn't tell my mom about those people, but "haunted" is an interesting term to use for harmless stuff.
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  08.06.09, 06:43 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - Hmm well I guess I didn't find it entirely harmless. Really did not like being pushed and shoved by bigger stronger boys. I am hoping my DD is less sensitive to teasing & roughhousing however. But for the purposes of my post, "followed" would probably have been a better word. And btw, nothing against the boy or his family... I realise it's pretty normal behaviour.
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    08.06.09, 07:02 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I absolutely hated being hit by some stupid boy in elem school--I still remembered his name was "Howard", and I just endured it up and didn't tell anyone. My nephew started kissing the girls when he was very young. The parents called my SIL to complain and they did teach nephew "boundaries". No kid has a right to put a hand or mouth on your kid (pushing down, shoving, kissing, biting),or take his/her stuff. The parents need to teach them boundaries/manners and that they can't just do anything they please in society.
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  08.06.09, 07:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- OP, are you from Australia or England?
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  08.06.09, 07:15 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - Nope... try your third guess :) Where's the funny spelling/phrasing?
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    08.06.09, 09:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - np I don't see one and wonder what she's talking about.
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      08.06.09, 09:10 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - D'oh, sorry, you spelled "realize", "realise" a couple of times. I thought that was the Australian/British spelling of the word.
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        08.06.09, 05:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- they're 3...i'm sure he'll be crushing on--and pushing--a different girl by the time they're actually in elementary school
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  08.06.09, 07:26 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Totally normal behavior--at three (four, five, six, etc) they ALL have funny ways of showing "it" that's why they are called kids and not adults. If she doesn't like his actions, she needs to use her words and tell him so. Sounds like you've got some "issues" if you've been haunted by your experience so many years ago.
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  08.06.09, 07:56 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I know it is normal and I know I have "issues" - that's part of why I posted, to get some different perspectives. I have a friend with a DD who was crushed on and teased a lot and I know her DD didn't like it or "get it" either, so I don't think I'm totally alone in this. I think the dynamic is normal, yes, but also funny/odd and am curious about people's memories. Not trying to have the boy-Mom vs. girl-Mom debate which I find very overplayed and boring here, but hey, I guess we all have our issues. Oh and thanks for the tip, it never occured to me to tell my DD to use her words!
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    08.06.09, 09:07 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]