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I am intrigued by the "connections" discussion - anyone have any experience with this? We have NO connections at all - will private really help dc? If so, how?
22 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Well, sure, if you go to grad school chances are those are the contacts that help the most. But if your end is college, then younger contacts will matter.
[ Reply | Options ]i agree, but i maintain that connections in private K-12 don't usually do much. i've never used any and haven't heard of any of my friends benefiting from them.
[ Reply | Options ]I disagree. Someone I know from Choate had a Choate connection that got them their "key" job in the media, the one that helped to catapult them forward and they have since become extremely successful. Maybe it depends on where you go to shcool, etc., not just any private, but good privates can be,"can be", pivotal.
[ Reply | Options ]i agree that everyone probably has an anecdote about how someone's random high school connection got them an awesome job. but of all of my friends--and many of them went to schools like choate, andover, and groton--none of them have gotten their fabulous jobs from K-12 connections! i just don't believe it happens much at all, not enough to justify sending your kids there. even though i will agree there is a chance that it could be pivotal, issues like the quality of a kid's education are much more important in choosing a school IMO.
[ Reply | Options ]oh, none of them "have gotten their fabulous jobs" thru those connections, you insist, but they've gotten the fabulous jobs nonetheless. Okay, I still want to sprinkle some of that elite school magic on my kids, too, maybe then even if it isn't from a 'connection' there will still be a 'fabulous' job like all these others have...magically. Through their own sheer ...will.
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I guess theoretically if your dd, Rags McTattershanty, hangs out with wealthy private school kids instead of the hobo public school kids, she could meet the Sultan of Brunei at a party, and get to intern in Brunei over spring break rather than having to sell matchsticks on Broadway & 45th Street...
[ Reply | Options ]I can't help bu tnotice that two of our biggest self made VIPS in the news this past week, who have entered the elite from NOTHING but their own smarts/ambition, Obama and Sotomayor, BOTH attended private school. Coincidence? Perhaps.
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Neither did we/do we and our kid got into fc tt. They only matter if you're a billionaire, a celeb, or the kid is a sib or leg. Having great uncle Bill on the board won't help unless your kid gets to wl on their own.
[ Reply | Options ]They're talking about connections MADE at school, not getting you into school. And like everything else on this board, when people don't understand the nuance of something they slam it. Connections AREN'T the only reason people send their children to private school or aspire to ivy leagues but it CAN BE an undeniable extra advantage. It's just too true to deny.
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several of the guys at cantor fitzgerald who died on 9-11 got their jobs because they 'connected'with the boss in college.
[ Reply | Options ]I went to Spence and the only thing the connections have done, I suppose, is get my daughter into Spence. I love my school friends but no one has anything to offer beyond the friendship, if that's what you mean. I am from New York City so I obviously know more people than the average person so this could help me I guess. But I'm not sure what connections are supposed to get you really. A better internship in high school? That, maybe. But that's about it.
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