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Do you 'enjoy' spending time with your kids?
- Yes, most of the time we really have fun together
- Sometimes it's fun, sometimes it's really dull and aggravating
- Honestly most of the time it's not fun at all, but it's not supposed to be fun
- I really don't enjoy it at all, and wish I could spend less time with them
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Hi JULIET! Did you ask the nanny, point blank, what she would do while the twins were in camp for a few hours, if you took away the other tasks? I'd really like to know her answer? If you took all cleaning and laundry off the table, what would she do with those 2 hours?
13 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreJuliet Here: Yes, I've asked her 2 or 3 times, kinds of like this 'Do you have any preference of what you would like to do when the kids are in Camp 9 hours per week?'.. Usually no response. kind of shrug and look down. She is not very confrontational with me in general, I was surprised by the email, but happy she is expressing herself, albeit, it is hard to hear her so unhappy knowing it is probably rubbing off on my 'kids'
[ Reply | More ]I didn't see the original post, but honestly, with camp hours so short, I wouldn't be pushing this issue now. My kids are older and in school full days, but when they were in preschool, that time was just used for a few simple errands (like returning library books, picking up a few things at the grocery store). We didn't start with cleaning until they were in school full days.
[ Reply | More ]^^^ok, I just read the original thread. I think you need a new nanny and, frankly, I think you needed a new one a long time ago. The issue isn't the cleaning. The issue is that she clearly doesn't like your kids very much and isn't the right person to take care of them. Kids know when their care giver thinks they are "bad" and it is horrible for their self esteme. you need a new nanny immediately.
[ Reply | More ]itta. and i think a lot of people from the other thread agree as well. the sentiments expressed in the email went beyond just the time/work issue.
[ Reply | More ]Juliet again..yeah,I definitely see your point, but she isn't always this way, others that see her always say how joyful she is around the kids. BTW above Kids is in quotes, because I originally was going to put my 'difficult kids'. but then decided against it, but forgot to take out the quotes.. oh well. Also the kids went to pre-school last year as well but just 5 hours per week and I didn't ask her to do anything then.
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She may not be suited for children this age. Our first nanny was fantastic when our DD was under 3. At age 3, when she became more active and independent, their relationship became to falter. She went to preschool half days, and we got a wonderful, energetic nanny and they had a great time. Your nanny may be better with infants to age 3, and just finds the noise and commotion of older children too much. It isn't that she's a bad nanny, she's just not the right nanny for older children.
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