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I know a girl who is 30 single and has no bf, no savings, does not come from $$ and works as a secretary. She got pregnant ( was desparate to do so). I think this is nuts. She does not want to be and old mom.
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07.19.09, 07:13 AM [ Flag ]
- And so what? You expect her circumstances to remain the same? It is her choice and if you feel that badly start a college fund for her unborn child.
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  07.19.09, 07:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I think it's stupid. And I'm sure the taxpayer will pay for her choice in the end (but personal responsibility doesn't seem to matter these days.)
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  07.19.09, 07:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - why?
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    07.19.09, 08:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - she may not be rich, but she has a job. i'm not sure why you think the taxpayer will pay in the end.
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    07.19.09, 12:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - Do you mean the baby may grow-up to be a banker and screw us all? That's the last big hit I took as a taxpayer.
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    07.19.09, 01:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - lol.
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      07.19.09, 01:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- good for her. i would have done the same if i had to. she'll figure it out.
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  07.19.09, 08:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - ditto.
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    07.19.09, 08:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - np "Had to"? The woman is 30. I could see your point if she was 8 to 10 years older...
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    07.19.09, 08:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- why is she nuts? you don't know any other single thirty something women with kids? I know tons. WTF?
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  07.19.09, 08:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- wish her well and stop being so judgemental.
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  07.19.09, 08:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- her choice. Why don't you get off your high horse and help her? I hate smug sad little people like you.
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  07.19.09, 10:26 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I agree it's nuts, and I'm sure she'll see how hard it is to raise a child single and without lots of money, but she'll also find the joy and love of raising a child, so it's her choice.
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  07.19.09, 10:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- What is your problem with this? If you told me she didn't have a job, lived at home with her mother, and had a boyfriend in prison and got pregnant, I'd think she was nuts. But the above does no strike me as being so out there. And from my experience in hiring secretaries, a good secretary can always get work, even in a bad economy.
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  07.19.09, 10:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Who are you to judge her?
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  07.19.09, 11:55 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- There may be a lot there you don't know...family support, a boyfriend who doesn't want to be a husband, but is going to be a great father, a good savings account which she doesn't discuss. She isn't a 17 year old high school drop out who got knocked up.
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  07.19.09, 12:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I agree with you, I've got a similar situation with someone I work with. I think she's just having a baby because she's lonely or wants attention.
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  07.19.09, 01:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I don't blame her! She's still young enough to get pregnant naturally. If she puts it off while she waits for the man of her dreams and a lucrative career, she'd probably have to pay a fortune for IV. And at least she's young enough to have the energy to juggle baby and job.
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  07.19.09, 09:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- flame away, but i find this to be incredibly irresponsible. my opinion.
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  07.19.09, 10:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- And if she waited until she was married, financially stable, but 40? She'd get flamed here, anyway.
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  07.20.09, 06:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

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I know a girl who is 30 single and has no bf, no savings, does not come from $$ and works as a secretary. She got pregnant ( was desparate to do so). I think this is nuts. She does not want to be and old mom.

And so what? You expect her circumstances to remain the same? It is her choice and if you feel that badly start a college fund for her unborn child.

I think it's stupid. And I'm sure the taxpayer will pay for her choice in the end (but personal responsibility doesn't seem to matter these days.)

why?

she may not be rich, but she has a job. i'm not sure why you think the taxpayer will pay in the end.

Do you mean the baby may grow-up to be a banker and screw us all? That's the last big hit I took as a taxpayer.

lol.

good for her. i would have done the same if i had to. she'll figure it out.

ditto.

np "Had to"? The woman is 30. I could see your point if she was 8 to 10 years older...

why is she nuts? you don't know any other single thirty something women with kids? I know tons. WTF?

wish her well and stop being so judgemental.

her choice. Why don't you get off your high horse and help her? I hate smug sad little people like you.

I agree it's nuts, and I'm sure she'll see how hard it is to raise a child single and without lots of money, but she'll also find the joy and love of raising a child, so it's her choice.

Who are you to judge her?

There may be a lot there you don't know...family support, a boyfriend who doesn't want to be a husband, but is going to be a great father, a good savings account which she doesn't discuss. She isn't a 17 year old high school drop out who got knocked up.

I agree with you, I've got a similar situation with someone I work with. I think she's just having a baby because she's lonely or wants attention.

I don't blame her! She's still young enough to get pregnant naturally. If she puts it off while she waits for the man of her dreams and a lucrative career, she'd probably have to pay a fortune for IV. And at least she's young enough to have the energy to juggle baby and job.

flame away, but i find this to be incredibly irresponsible. my opinion.

And if she waited until she was married, financially stable, but 40? She'd get flamed here, anyway.

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