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OH PLEASE NO FLAMES: The post below, the Lesbian mom looking for the right school had me thinking. My dc is five yrs old and is entering public school. Her previous school was a religion school and she's only been raised with seeing heterosexual relationships. When is it appropriate to talk to her about homosexual relationships? and how? I don't want her to be surprised in school and I want her to be receptive to her peers and their families. WDYT?
12 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]it's never too early to explain it in an age appropraite way. better if you could explain in contect, like if you had friends or family members who were gay or lesbian but in the absence of that you could talk about different kinds of families and be sure to emphasize that heterosexual couples are not necessarily the norm even though they are the majority. my dd's known about gay couples since she was 2yo because we have gay/lesbian friends and family members, some with kids some without. kids are very accepting, in fact my dd always talked about how she wanted 2 moms. Hell, who wouldn't
[ Reply | Options ]OP: Thanks for the advise. I'm just a little nervous. Our neighborhood is becoming very diverse. She asked me once why were two men holding hands? I was caught off guard and her lil friend was there. I shrugged it off and said it's just the same way you and ____hold hands. Then men were really nice and laughed with me. I feel that it opens a lot of doors to a lot more questions for ex: babies and explaining that they have the option of adopting. Or explaining why children are put up for adoption and so forth. Well, I guess I'm prob. working myself up and I'm prob. under estimating her. Once again thanks for being helpful.
[ Reply | Options ]you haven't explained adoption either? wow. I'm the poster above who said my dd learned about this at 2yo, plus some of the 2 mom families have adopted children, but we know lots of other adopted kids including dd's niece. these things are really not hard to talk about, especially at 5yo, they are very open to it and don't have the usual biases. the idea of 2 moms, a mom and a dad, one mom only, or 2 dads seemed perfectly fine to my dd.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I didn't intentionally leave these things out, just never came up...until now. I did thouch the subject of adoption a little, when she was three. She wanted a baby brother and thought that they came from China. She told everyone at school that she was getting one. Before anyone flames, she watched an episode of Arthur (cartoon) and his friend Buster was getting a baby sister from China. So I explained adoption a little but not in details because she was three. These subjects just don't come up. She knows about down syndrome b/c I have a cousin who has down syndrome. Thanks.
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my son's best friend has two moms. they met when they were four. ds kind of took it for granted--it never seemed out of the ordinary to him. remember, at this age they meet kids with all kinds of parents. single moms, single dads, grandmas... two moms or two dads doesn't seem any weirder to them than any other arrangement. they will follow the lead of you and the other adults in their life. at school they have talked a lot about different kinds of families, and i guess we have tried to reiterate that all families are different!
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