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Lesbian mom here. DD is 4 and we're starting to look at privates. Anyone know which are most open to gay families, and which are not?
19 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]do you mean which ones will play the lesbo card and pick your dd BECAUSE you are gay?
[ Reply | Options ]Hi OP. Save this question for the "during the weekday work hours crowd" or do a search. I remember 1 school which came up quite a bit in this regard. I wish I could remember it. I know you don't want to send your daughter to a school were she may be verbally or even physically abused because of her family make-up. I think the question was asked by a gay dad so try doing a search on "gay day private school".
[ Reply | Options ]LREI, or Little Red, is definitely open and welcoming to gay and lesbian parents. I have friends there who are very happy.
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BTDT Lesbian mom here with a 10 year old dd. All schools are NOT "open" to gay families--most are delighted to have one per grade as part of their diversity efforts and that is it. Homophobia is alive and well in NYC no matter what people say--we have experienced people who do not want their kids to come to our house. If a school actually includes books about same sex families in their curriculum they are often accused of "pushing the gay agenda". All to say-- DO check out the schools known for their emphasis on tolerance and community values: LREI, C + C, Friends, PS 3, Calhoun.
[ Reply | Options ]Almost every school we looked at had books about gay families. Administration is generally very firm that all types of families are welcome. That said, what the administration says & how the parent body acts can be two different things.
[ Reply | Options ]another 2 mom family here: many schools pay lip service to tolerance but don't really practice it. One gay family per grade was not enough for us-- we didn't want our ds to be the only one.
[ Reply | Options ]That's a bit ridiculous on your part. What, 5% of the pop is openly gay? Of those, how many have children? And of those, how many apply to private school? One kid per grade is actually a lot given how many same sex families there are in the general pop and the private school pop.
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My daughter is in the lower school at Calhoun and there are several two-mom families--it's a great, inclusive school if you're interested in a progressive approach. (The kids who are thriving there tend to be self-motivated and good at independent play.) I also got an inclusive vibe from St. Hilda's and St. Hugh's on West 114th street--that school is kind of off the radar but it's really nice and has a more traditional approach.
[ Reply | Options ]Last year the Gay Center had a private school fair, and tons of schools came, with representatives who were very friendly, for what that's worth. Keep an eye out and see if they have it again this year. That said, we (lesbian couple) applied to get our son into the 3s program at Bank St. and St. Hilda's and got waitlisted both places.
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