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How do I keep myself from losing my patience with 4.5 yr old dd? She pushes the triggers often, and I try to be consistent with discipline, rewarding good behavior and all, but I find myself getting annoyed a lot, and I really don't like doing that.
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07.18.09, 05:44 PM [ Flag ]
- send her to her room. its worked for generations! has nothing to do with her and everything to do with mommy getting a break!
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  07.18.09, 05:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- She needs you know matter what her age. She growing into a person with her own ideas, point of view and agenda...and that's healthy! Get the Positive Discipline series by Dr. Jane Nelsen. It completely changed our prespective. This annoying behavior is her trying to communicate/connect with you...but she's doing it like a 4.5 year old..which is why it is so annoying.
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  07.19.09, 09:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- give examples, please. are you trying to be too structured?
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  07.19.09, 09:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I really began to mellow out and develop a sense of humor when DD hit that age. I had to remember that the whole point of parenting was to have a good relationship with this little person (at least one point). Remember she's doing her best.
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  07.19.09, 10:07 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Deep breathing. I would take deep breaths and then tell myself to relax. I also asked myself: Is this going to matter tomorrow or next week? 99% of the time the answer is no. I'd also do a check with myself: Are we tired? Hungry? When we were both tired and hungry, we'd have enormous blow-outs. Then I realized: Remember this...and now I know when I begin to feel super aggravated what the origin of that feeling is.
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  07.19.09, 10:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]