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Do you 'enjoy' spending time with your kids?
- Yes, most of the time we really have fun together
- Sometimes it's fun, sometimes it's really dull and aggravating
- Honestly most of the time it's not fun at all, but it's not supposed to be fun
- I really don't enjoy it at all, and wish I could spend less time with them
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My mother in CA claims that she can't afford to fly out to visit me since I've had my DCs, yet she just emailed with news that she just bought a new car. She's been out to see me once since my DCs were born, #1 is 22 m/o and #2 is a newborn. Typical, yet I am still hurt.
22 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreI think we have this stereotype of doting Grandmothers. My MIL barely liked her own children, was only too relieved when they left the house, and never gave DS a single toy. Perhaps your mother loves being a grandmother from a distance.
[ Reply | More ]I totally agree that people cling onto the doting Grandmother stereotype. Not my mom! She doesn't admit it but she doesn't like the grandkids until they're old enough to listen to her and pay attention to her. Then she swoops in and comes up with treasure hunts, fun games, activity charts, etc. Prior to that though, they're invisible. My advice to OP: take your Mom for what she is, don't expect a lot, and you will never be disappointed again.
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get webcams so you can talk over the internet and she can see the babies. not everyone likes to travel, stay in others' houses, arrange for things to be taken care of at home, etc., etc. it's not nec about the cost of the ticket and it doesn't mean you're not loved.
[ Reply | More ]But this isn't about OP, this is about her kids, the woman's grandkids. She sounds pathological.
[ Reply | More ]of course it's about op -- her feelings are hurt. it's a way for everyone to stay closer connected via webcams since her mother doesn't want to fly to visit. people seem to do a lot of kvetching to me when they can find other ways to work things out to everyone's satisfaction. and if op is just desperate to have mom visit, fly her out.
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she doesn sound self-centered. i would offer to split the cost of a ticket with her.
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