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I am giving my nanny Friday afternoon off - is it okay for me to ask her to come in a half-hour or an hour early (DH and I are trying to get some stuff done). I would normally pay her OT for this. I don't want to ask her because she'll say yes but I don't want to be unfair.
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06.22.09, 06:26 AM [ Flag ]
- oh stop it. she works for you. have her work the hours you need.
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  06.22.09, 06:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - No, sorry, it doesn't work like that. I treat her the same way I like to be treated. FWIW, I do the same for my employees at work.
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    06.22.09, 06:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - yeah, me too, but if i need a staffer to come in early for a business reason, i ask her too and i don't feel all guilty about it.
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      06.22.09, 06:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - it's not a business reason.
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        06.22.09, 06:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - it's ok for her to ASK, but the nanny may not be able to. what is wrong with you people? slavery is over.
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    06.22.09, 06:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Oh come on. My boss does it all the time, scheduling meetings early or late in the day. If you pay well and treat your nanny well, this should not be an issue. Now that kids are in school/camp our babysitter gets so much time off that I have no qualms about asking her to come early or stay late. We had discussed it and she is absolutely fine with it.
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      06.22.09, 06:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - i don't let mine do it, sorry - i'm a mother.
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        06.22.09, 06:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - I've put in my time and paid my dues on staying late/coming in early. Now I tell him, Sorry, I can't.
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        06.22.09, 07:15 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I meant, Can I ask her without paying her OT, since she has whole afternoon off.
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  06.22.09, 06:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - nanny here. sure, go for it. if you are giving her a paid friday off, it's perfectly reasonable to ask for other hours during the week, to make up for it. Of course she might not be able to (she may have other plans), but nothing wrong with asking.
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    06.22.09, 06:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - is your contract for a 40 hour week?
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    06.22.09, 06:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Some will say it is fine. Personally, if I ask my nanny to either come early or stay late, I always pay OT b/c it's beyond her work day. If she happens to get extra time off, I consider it a "gift." Poor woman works so hard, I'm pscyched when I can give her some time off.
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  06.22.09, 06:40 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I know, I feel the same way. We're trying to save some money, but we could really use the extra time to get stuff done. I suppose the money, on the whole, matters less to us than to her, relatively speaking.
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    06.22.09, 06:43 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - yes. curious, though - did you give her fri. afternoon off because you had it off?
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      06.22.09, 06:45 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - Grandma and Grandpa are visiting.
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        06.22.09, 06:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        so just have a conversation with her and see what she says.
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        06.22.09, 06:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        She'll say yes. She's fabulous. I just don't want to take advantage of it.
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        06.22.09, 06:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        good for you. continue to be kind.
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        06.22.09, 07:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I think it would have been fine if you had asked her to come in early at the same time you told her that she'd have the afternoon off, but bringing it up now makes it awkward.
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  06.22.09, 06:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I haven't told her yet she has Friday off, because I wasn't sure if Grammy and Grandpa would be coming. Thanks, ladies, I'll ask her to come in half an hour early tonight and let her know she is leaving at noon.
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    06.22.09, 06:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - She'll be thrilled, don't even worry about it.
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      06.22.09, 06:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - stop - you don't know if she will be thrilled or inconvenienced.
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        06.22.09, 07:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I have never met anyone who would be upset because they can go home at noon on Friday.
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        06.22.09, 07:02 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        if it's in trade off for going in early or late this week, she may not be able to manage it, is all i'm saying.
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        06.22.09, 07:03 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

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I am giving my nanny Friday afternoon off - is it okay for me to ask her to come in a half-hour or an hour early (DH and I are trying to get some stuff done). I would normally pay her OT for this. I don't want to ask her because she'll say yes but I don't want to be unfair.

oh stop it. she works for you. have her work the hours you need.

No, sorry, it doesn't work like that. I treat her the same way I like to be treated. FWIW, I do the same for my employees at work.

yeah, me too, but if i need a staffer to come in early for a business reason, i ask her too and i don't feel all guilty about it.

it's not a business reason.

it's ok for her to ASK, but the nanny may not be able to. what is wrong with you people? slavery is over.

i don't let mine do it, sorry - i'm a mother.

I've put in my time and paid my dues on staying late/coming in early. Now I tell him, Sorry, I can't.

I meant, Can I ask her without paying her OT, since she has whole afternoon off.

nanny here. sure, go for it. if you are giving her a paid friday off, it's perfectly reasonable to ask for other hours during the week, to make up for it. Of course she might not be able to (she may have other plans), but nothing wrong with asking.

is your contract for a 40 hour week?

Some will say it is fine. Personally, if I ask my nanny to either come early or stay late, I always pay OT b/c it's beyond her work day. If she happens to get extra time off, I consider it a "gift." Poor woman works so hard, I'm pscyched when I can give her some time off.

I know, I feel the same way. We're trying to save some money, but we could really use the extra time to get stuff done. I suppose the money, on the whole, matters less to us than to her, relatively speaking.

yes. curious, though - did you give her fri. afternoon off because you had it off?

Grandma and Grandpa are visiting.

so just have a conversation with her and see what she says.

She'll say yes. She's fabulous. I just don't want to take advantage of it.

good for you. continue to be kind.

I think it would have been fine if you had asked her to come in early at the same time you told her that she'd have the afternoon off, but bringing it up now makes it awkward.

I haven't told her yet she has Friday off, because I wasn't sure if Grammy and Grandpa would be coming. Thanks, ladies, I'll ask her to come in half an hour early tonight and let her know she is leaving at noon.

She'll be thrilled, don't even worry about it.

stop - you don't know if she will be thrilled or inconvenienced.

I have never met anyone who would be upset because they can go home at noon on Friday.

if it's in trade off for going in early or late this week, she may not be able to manage it, is all i'm saying.

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