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Why do people think "one of each" is better than two of the same gender? They act like they won the lottery. I grew up with same-gender sibling and would not trade that for the world. I am so glad my DCs have each other as same-gender sibling. Health is foremost, but in truth I always felt sorry for families with two kids of diff. genders -- they seemed less a coherent unit and the siblings were never as close.
14 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Because of the "experience" of parenting both sexes: a boy and a girl. Sometimes Mom wants a girl; dad wants a boy. I've mostly heard of people wanting "one of each" (boy/girl) and they feel sorry if you have "another one" of the same sex. But you'd better be done with 2, or you'll hear about it.
[ Reply | Options ]i have a boy and am expecting 2 girls -- I'm excited at the idea of having both but I truly don't understand people who make these comments. I don't understand many of the comments people feel free to say. I had actually hoped that having both genders would mean that I wouldn't have to hear things like 'boys are the best' or 'girls are better' etc..but in fact, people still say them to me - just now instead of about boys it's about girls. I had a very close family with me and my older brother so I can't say I feel that same sex siblings are closer because it seems very individual - but that's the point, we are all individuals so the family unit as a whole is what is closer or less close (I'll forego saying better).
[ Reply | Options ]I always felt that the dynamic in the household is very different so it depends on what you prefer. If you have two girls, it's a very girl centric household. Two boys make mom the center of the household and boys tend to dote on their moms. One boy and one girl is similarly a completely different situation. I am expecting a dd after one ds and I am thrilled and feel like I won the lottery. DH had no sisters and I think would really love being dad to a daughter as well. And I love having a son more than I imagined, but would also love to have a dd to have that relationship with someone. Different people want different things...
[ Reply | Options ]how funny you think your personal situation - how you were raised, and your children, is the ideal one. I have two same sex but would never presume this is ideal.
[ Reply | Options ]I've heard a lot of my pg friends (and esp their DHs) say we hope it's a DD, or DD's are the best. This is for a 1st pg. I'm expecting a DD too and am happy enough, but I would be just as happy with a healthy DS. I know it's not cool/PC to say I really want a DS, but too many people have told me before they found out what I was having that a DD is the best. I found it mildly offensive, actually.
[ Reply | Options ]i walk around town with my two dd's and strangers will point to my preg belly and say "do you know what yr having?" when i say boy it is like i have won the lottry. i get tons of congrats and lecture on how happy i will be and how my husband (who is such a girl daddy btw) must be sooo pleased. sometimes i say girl just to mess with them-- and they literally sigh and say oh- well you won't need to buy anything!
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