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Nanny badmouthing on playdate post freaks me out. I think my nanny is wonderful, but how can you ever really know? Even with a nanny cam, my nanny is out and about at least 50% of the day.
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06.12.09, 12:07 PM [ Flag ]
- take the day off and follow. or hire someone to follow. hey, that would be a good business. get paid to go to the park with a stroller and kid and spy on other people's nannies. even try to speak with them if you can.
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  06.12.09, 12:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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  - I've actually followed her but only for short distances...also have "popped in" here and there. All was fine. But I'd TOTALLY hire someone to do an all-day following!
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    06.12.09, 12:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - i think i'm stealing your idea and marketing it ;)
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    06.12.09, 12:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- if she was bad, the nanny cam would pick it up.
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  06.12.09, 12:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Don't do it. She's about to do something that will tick you off (we all take shortcuts) and you'll be much less happy for not necessarily a good reason. If your children are above 3, if the nanny does something egregious they would tell you.
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  06.12.09, 12:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I don't know about that - I read isawyournanny.com and the kids are often much older than mine. Kids won't report neglect.
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    06.12.09, 12:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I think you know- SAHM here with tons of WOHM friends- when you have a good nanny- you almost always will get positive feedback from your friends or people who interact with her- I always make it my business to say something as I think my friends would love to hear it. If a nanny is just OK or meh then I don't say anything- but if the nanny is bad- you bet your a** I would call the mom and feel the need to say something. If you never hear anything at all from anyone, then I would be more suspicious- this of course depends on the age of your dc- things come out more when your dc becomes more active.
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  06.12.09, 12:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - wohm here. this is true. i've had 2 nannies in 5 years (and in both cases we received many unsolicited positive comments).
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    06.12.09, 12:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- why would you worry about this? As long as you get along with her and she cares for the child why does anything else matter?
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  06.12.09, 12:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - because if your kids are small enough you don't really know for sure if the care is adequate
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    06.12.09, 12:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - you usually do.
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      06.12.09, 12:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - "usually" is just not good enough for my dd
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        06.12.09, 12:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        of course not. quit your job and take care of your own children then.
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        06.12.09, 12:51 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        idiot. that's why i choose to freelance and raise my own child.
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        06.12.09, 03:01 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - are you serious? someone is with your dc all day and you shouldn't worry about how that person is treating your dc?
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    06.12.09, 12:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- i've seen one nanny at the library consistently ignoring her charges and being abrupt with them when she does interact. anyone know of the web address where i could post such an incident, in case the parents are looking?
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  06.12.09, 12:28 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I Saw Your Nanny blog.
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    06.12.09, 12:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - thanks...googling
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      06.12.09, 12:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- i am a sahm and i see nannies all of the time who are yelling for no good reason or completely ignoring kids. strapped down in a stroller with a bribe/treat while socializing on phone or with friends- for hours. and all they do is complain about the parents-- in front of dc.
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  06.12.09, 12:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - can't believe nannies can get away with this. my 2 yr old is like a tape recorder. He's always parroting stuff my nanny says to him (it's never anything interesting, just phrases I know I don't happen to use).
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    06.12.09, 12:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - np, i see it all the time. I wonder the same thing -- how do the parents not hear about it from the dcs?
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      06.12.09, 01:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - b/c the dcs thinks that since you approve of the person dc spends all day with then anything this person does is OK by you.
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        06.12.09, 01:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - most 20 yr olds don't question their bosses. you think a 2 yr old will?
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        06.12.09, 01:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- These are the risks you take when you abandon your children into the care of a low-paid stranger.
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  06.12.09, 03:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - You are the risk for being such a cliche.
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    06.12.09, 03:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

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Nanny badmouthing on playdate post freaks me out. I think my nanny is wonderful, but how can you ever really know? Even with a nanny cam, my nanny is out and about at least 50% of the day.

take the day off and follow. or hire someone to follow. hey, that would be a good business. get paid to go to the park with a stroller and kid and spy on other people's nannies. even try to speak with them if you can.

I

I've actually followed her but only for short distances...also have "popped in" here and there. All was fine. But I'd TOTALLY hire someone to do an all-day following!

i think i'm stealing your idea and marketing it ;)

if she was bad, the nanny cam would pick it up.

Don't do it. She's about to do something that will tick you off (we all take shortcuts) and you'll be much less happy for not necessarily a good reason. If your children are above 3, if the nanny does something egregious they would tell you.

I don't know about that - I read isawyournanny.com and the kids are often much older than mine. Kids won't report neglect.

wohm here. this is true. i've had 2 nannies in 5 years (and in both cases we received many unsolicited positive comments).

why would you worry about this? As long as you get along with her and she cares for the child why does anything else matter?

because if your kids are small enough you don't really know for sure if the care is adequate

you usually do.

"usually" is just not good enough for my dd

of course not. quit your job and take care of your own children then.

idiot. that's why i choose to freelance and raise my own child.

are you serious? someone is with your dc all day and you shouldn't worry about how that person is treating your dc?

i've seen one nanny at the library consistently ignoring her charges and being abrupt with them when she does interact. anyone know of the web address where i could post such an incident, in case the parents are looking?

I Saw Your Nanny blog.

thanks...googling

i am a sahm and i see nannies all of the time who are yelling for no good reason or completely ignoring kids. strapped down in a stroller with a bribe/treat while socializing on phone or with friends- for hours. and all they do is complain about the parents-- in front of dc.

can't believe nannies can get away with this. my 2 yr old is like a tape recorder. He's always parroting stuff my nanny says to him (it's never anything interesting, just phrases I know I don't happen to use).

np, i see it all the time. I wonder the same thing -- how do the parents not hear about it from the dcs?

b/c the dcs thinks that since you approve of the person dc spends all day with then anything this person does is OK by you.

most 20 yr olds don't question their bosses. you think a 2 yr old will?

These are the risks you take when you abandon your children into the care of a low-paid stranger.

You are the risk for being such a cliche.

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