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Nanny badmouthing on playdate post freaks me out. I think my nanny is wonderful, but how can you ever really know? Even with a nanny cam, my nanny is out and about at least 50% of the day.

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  • Nanny badmouthing on playdate post freaks me out. I think my nanny is wonderful, but how can you ever really know? Even with a nanny cam, my nanny is out and about at least 50% of the day.

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    • take the day off and follow. or hire someone to follow. hey, that would be a good business. get paid to go to the park with a stroller and kid and spy on other people's nannies. even try to speak with them if you can.

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      06.12.09, 12:11 PM Flag
      • I

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        06.12.09, 12:11 PM Flag
      • I've actually followed her but only for short distances...also have "popped in" here and there. All was fine. But I'd TOTALLY hire someone to do an all-day following!

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        06.12.09, 12:12 PM Flag
      • i think i'm stealing your idea and marketing it ;)

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        06.12.09, 12:13 PM Flag
    • if she was bad, the nanny cam would pick it up.

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      06.12.09, 12:13 PM Flag
    • Don't do it. She's about to do something that will tick you off (we all take shortcuts) and you'll be much less happy for not necessarily a good reason. If your children are above 3, if the nanny does something egregious they would tell you.

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      06.12.09, 12:16 PM Flag
      • I don't know about that - I read isawyournanny.com and the kids are often much older than mine. Kids won't report neglect.

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        06.12.09, 12:21 PM Flag
    • I think you know- SAHM here with tons of WOHM friends- when you have a good nanny- you almost always will get positive feedback from your friends or people who interact with her- I always make it my business to say something as I think my friends would love to hear it. If a nanny is just OK or meh then I don't say anything- but if the nanny is bad- you bet your a** I would call the mom and feel the need to say something. If you never hear anything at all from anyone, then I would be more suspicious- this of course depends on the age of your dc- things come out more when your dc becomes more active.

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      06.12.09, 12:20 PM Flag
      • wohm here. this is true. i've had 2 nannies in 5 years (and in both cases we received many unsolicited positive comments).

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        06.12.09, 12:30 PM Flag
    • why would you worry about this? As long as you get along with her and she cares for the child why does anything else matter?

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      06.12.09, 12:21 PM Flag
      • because if your kids are small enough you don't really know for sure if the care is adequate

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        06.12.09, 12:22 PM Flag
        • you usually do.

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          06.12.09, 12:23 PM Flag
          • "usually" is just not good enough for my dd

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            06.12.09, 12:26 PM Flag
            • of course not. quit your job and take care of your own children then.

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              06.12.09, 12:51 PM Flag
              • idiot. that's why i choose to freelance and raise my own child.

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                06.12.09, 03:01 PM Flag
      • are you serious? someone is with your dc all day and you shouldn't worry about how that person is treating your dc?

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        06.12.09, 12:29 PM Flag
    • i've seen one nanny at the library consistently ignoring her charges and being abrupt with them when she does interact. anyone know of the web address where i could post such an incident, in case the parents are looking?

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      06.12.09, 12:28 PM Flag
    • i am a sahm and i see nannies all of the time who are yelling for no good reason or completely ignoring kids. strapped down in a stroller with a bribe/treat while socializing on phone or with friends- for hours. and all they do is complain about the parents-- in front of dc.

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      06.12.09, 12:33 PM Flag
      • can't believe nannies can get away with this. my 2 yr old is like a tape recorder. He's always parroting stuff my nanny says to him (it's never anything interesting, just phrases I know I don't happen to use).

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        06.12.09, 12:37 PM Flag
        • np, i see it all the time. I wonder the same thing -- how do the parents not hear about it from the dcs?

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          06.12.09, 01:25 PM Flag
          • b/c the dcs thinks that since you approve of the person dc spends all day with then anything this person does is OK by you.

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            06.12.09, 01:41 PM Flag
          • most 20 yr olds don't question their bosses. you think a 2 yr old will?

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            06.12.09, 01:41 PM Flag
    • These are the risks you take when you abandon your children into the care of a low-paid stranger.

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      06.12.09, 03:03 PM Flag
      • You are the risk for being such a cliche.

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        06.12.09, 03:35 PM Flag
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