UrbanBaby - So, so annoyed at DH today. We just seem...

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So, so annoyed at DH today. We just seem to have such different ideas of what a vacation might mean. To him it is great to either rent a house w/a bunch of friends or family, or have people meet up w/us when we are traveling. I like spending time just w/him and our DCs. Thought we had reached a happy medium of 1 trip once a year w/his sibs and their kids plus various weekends scattered throughout the year. We usually have a trip we do just on our own. Now he just invited his brother to come with his 3 kids to a house we were planning to rent on the Jersey Shore this summer (we only have the house for a week). I had imagined we cd rent the house (small--3 bedrooms; we have 3 kids) and have some time alone and some days w/people coming to stay. I just can't figure out what is up. I get hurt b/c feels like he doesn't want to spend time w/just us. Wish there were a way to talk about this w/o him getting defensive. As of now she just says, "OK, I messed up inviting him, but it's my BROTHER!" like I'm being the impossible one. Sorry to vent!
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06.06.09, 08:07 AM [ Flag ]
- are you insecure or high maintenace? Most people feel "the more the merrier" when it comes to vacations. Try to lighten up.
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  06.06.09, 09:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- At this point suck it up, and next year go travel somewhere, just you/]r family.
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  06.06.09, 09:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I'd be very pissed. I'd say, yes it's your brother, but I wanted ONE vacation this year for just us, you me and OUR kids. I hope you can figure it out before summer is out. IF not, tell me you don't want ANY vacations to be just us and I won't expect it again and be so disappointed. I take it all your family vacations involve his family... what about yours? Are you interested in hanging out with them? IF so, would he be open to EVERY single vacation including them? DH would never do this to me and neither would I to him because we both realize I need non ILs vacation time. If his brother was to suddenly be invited, there would be a serious risk of me backing out and being too busy for the vacation.
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  06.06.09, 12:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- It sounds to me like dh gets bored vacationing with just you and the kids, but doesn't want to say that--so he just invites others along. Sucks that the house is so small. Why not insist his brother get a separate house?
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  06.06.09, 12:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]