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I am so in love with my newborn son. I was worried that I would not love him as much as his sister, but it is going the other direction. I am so much more smitten with him than I even have been with her. Is this totally strange? I feel so guilty. As for my husband, he is worried that he isn't feeling the same excitment for our son as he did for our dd. Thoughts?
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]It is hard. For a while I really struggled with the fact that I secretly preferred No. 2 (having as a No. 1 myself always been painfully aware that my parents loved my younger sibling more). I have actively tried to reconnect with my No. 1 (taking more alone time with him, snuggling him etc.) and that really helped.
[ Reply | Options ]Just wait until #2 hits the twos. You'll be feeling the other way around and be re-smitten with #1, who will undoubtedly be more fun to be around, more rational, easygoing, more mature in comparison. The pendulum swings and then swings back again, in my experience. Now that mine are 3 and 5, I vacillate between preferring one or the other all day long, depending on their or my moods! But I adore them both more than life, and the extreme ups and downs of the first year or so of adjustment have definitely settled down. Never underestimate those newborn bonding hormones, either - it's hard to remember but you probably felt the exact same (adoring) way about your dd but there was no sibling to compare her too when she was a newborn.
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