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  • We have to tell our dd that she isn't returning to her preschool next year and is going to a new one (we don't like her current school, not a good place for her). I think she will be sad, confused. How would you suggest I explain it? She is 4.

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    06.02.09, 01:52 PM [ Flag ]

    • Don't even mention it until the first day of school.

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      06.02.09, 01:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • I don't agree. The sooner she gets it through her head the more attached (to the idea of the new school) she'll be.

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        06.02.09, 01:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • ITA. 3 months to a four yo is a lifetime. Too much opportunity to build anxiety if you tell her now and spend all summer discussing it. Wait until the night before or next day. Arrange a playdate with someone from the new class over the Summer, just make it a playdate with nothing else attached. Night before first day you can tell her that nice girl jane, or whomever will be in the class.

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        06.02.09, 02:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • BTDT. Just talk up the new school -- big time. How great it's going to be, some details (walk to school, or something about facilities, or any students she knows...) Will probably be fine.

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      06.02.09, 01:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • don't say a word until late summer, then just tell her she will be going to a new school. no big deal.

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      06.02.09, 01:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • It won't be as big of a deal to her as it is to you, that's for sure. You tell her (about a week before school starts) very casually that she is going to a different school this year. No big deal. If she asks what about "sally", you say, I don't know what Sally's mommy is going to do, I'll ask next time I see them. It really really really is no big deal.

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      06.02.09, 01:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • tell her she's going to pre-k next year at a new school because she'll be a big kid

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      06.02.09, 01:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • OP: Interesting. Thanks for the responses. The school is part of an ongoing so I can't really use the "big girl" excuse. The school we are leaving thought we should tell her so she has "closure" before the end of the year (next week) but I feel like it will upset her. She knows people who go to the new school (though not in the same grade) so I don't think the transition will be too bad. Maybe it is best to wait until later. I don't particularly trust how the school we are leaving would handle it, to be honest.

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      06.02.09, 02:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • school is off-base here. wait until after summer and if you are excited about her new school, she will be too.

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        06.02.09, 02:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • school is wrong. they just want you to tell so they don't have to deal with any questions at the beginning of next year, screw em. NO reason to tell her now.

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        06.02.09, 04:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • We were at a preschool that recomended this, IMO it was just a ploy to make us feel guilty we did not and told dd in August she didn't care a bit. At this young age dc's are attached for the moment but give it a few weeks they forget all about it?

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        06.02.09, 04:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • where was she and where is she going?

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      06.02.09, 02:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Studio school?

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      06.02.09, 04:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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