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i am always frustrated with my dh. Too much to go i nto now but in general i am very unhappy and he just seems oblivious. He drives me insane.
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05.22.09, 05:29 PM [ Flag ]
- are you me?
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  05.22.09, 05:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - guess so. I'm not sure why. I love him. I think i am angry because i never ever ever have time for myself ever! I work full time and have a toddler and he works and it seems his work always takes precedence, as do his stories and all. I can go thru a whole evening silent and listen to him and he never checks in wth me about my day or offers to come home early so i could get my work done. I am so tired of it. Plus, we NEVER take a vacation and he is content to jst live like a slob in a shitty apt. ARRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHH!
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    05.22.09, 05:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Sounds like you will have to drive this relationship. Not always a bad thing, once you accept that that is what you are dealing with. You make the decisions, you insist on some air time. He is obviously not going to do it.
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      05.22.09, 05:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - You're living beyond your means. Cut back. Quit your job.
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      05.22.09, 06:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I would lay down some ground rules. Can't help it if DH talks non stop. My DH doesn't talk at all. So I have to literally contribute ALL the conversation. But he has to come home and relieve the nanny 2X a week. I do 3X a week. Its not equal. I still plan menus, do most of the cooking, freshdirect etc... but I have to assign him work
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  05.22.09, 06:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - ^sorry: I have to assign him house work if I want it done. He just doesn't seem to 'see' when things are lying around and need cleaning. I completely boss over him re things that need to get done because we both know I do 70-80% of the housework despite working slightly longer hours.
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    05.22.09, 06:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]