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How long did it take you to become pregnant when you started trying? I think it's actually a LOT harder than we are led to believe and I want a realistic picture of what to expect (going to start next cycle).

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  • How long did it take you to become pregnant when you started trying? I think it's actually a LOT harder than we are led to believe and I want a realistic picture of what to expect (going to start next cycle).

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    05.22.09, 11:56 AM Flag ]
    • first one, m/c then almost a year.

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      05.22.09, 11:57 AM Flag
    • 1st month of trying for two pregnancies so far (1 DD at 31 and in month 4 of pregnancy #2 at 35). Sorry that's not what you wanted to hear, but I think it's not that unusual for people who do not have fertility problems.

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      05.22.09, 12:11 PM Flag
      • Dont get me wrong - i would love to hear positive stories too! Must not have phrased that well. I just want a sample!

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        05.27.09, 12:16 PM Flag
    • 2nd try, then m/c. 2nd try again, m/c. then 1st try.

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      05.22.09, 12:13 PM Flag
    • How old are you? I am 31 and didn't realize it until I was 11 weeks along (implantation bleeding looks a LOT like a light period!). DH and I were having casual, unprotected sex for a month or so. Due June 22!

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      05.22.09, 12:44 PM Flag
    • trying for #2, i'm 28, and i went off birth control at the beginning of august. this is taking much longer than we expected! i'm going to cave and buy those ovulation strip thingees. my period is really irregular, and i think that's making things hard.

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      05.22.09, 12:52 PM Flag
    • Once we got the book "Take charge of your fertility" (Toni Wechsler or some such spelling), it was first month both times (after trying w/o book for 6 mos the first time). Great education - I was shocked how little I knew about the way my body worked at age 35!!

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      05.22.09, 12:57 PM Flag
    • 4 cycles for #1, currently on 2nd cycle trying for #2 (31)

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      05.22.09, 01:18 PM Flag
    • Have you bought ovulation predictor kit? Those help.

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      05.22.09, 01:26 PM Flag
      • OP - I will do. Was going to see how it goes first!

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        05.27.09, 12:19 PM Flag
    • We're going on 16 months and still trying. (Now with an RE.)

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      05.23.09, 07:17 AM Flag
    • I TTC at 37yo and got pregnant right away, but proceeded to have 3 m/c. So my issue was secondary infertility.

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      05.23.09, 07:19 AM Flag
    • For #1, 2nd try. Still trying for #2 -- 8 tries but then m/c; getting ready to try again. (I'm 40.)

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      05.24.09, 06:21 AM Flag
    • First try with #1 and #2. So lucky.

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      05.24.09, 06:26 AM Flag
    • Started trying when I was 30. Didn't expect any problems, but we tried naturally for 6 months and then decided to go to an RE, who did 2 rounds of IUI. One was successful, but resulted in a very early miscarriage. Took a 5-month break from RE (really emotional), then started IUI with Clomid. Clomid caused a bad ovarian cyst, so I had to take another break. Then we decided to move on to IVF (turned out I had low ovarian reserves)...first round was successful, but resulted in missed miscarriage (D&C) at 10 weeks. Now 19 weeks (today!) pg with twins. I think it's a lot harder for a lot more women than we realize, and you can't expect it to be easy. I hope it is for you, and I know women for whom it has, but you have to know that it can take a long time.

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      05.24.09, 06:37 AM Flag
      • Thank you - I am so happy it's going well for you now after the difficulty!

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        05.27.09, 12:20 PM Flag
    • Is it just me or have a lot of you waited a LONG time to start a family? Not trying to flame, but it could obviously be a factor in all the mishaps.

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      05.24.09, 06:39 AM Flag
      • It could very well be a factor, but not all of us had much of a choice.

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        05.24.09, 06:45 AM Flag
      • I was 28 and I had two MC's. Tough to say sometimes.

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        05.27.09, 12:19 PM Flag
        • I have had one m/c after a surprise pregnancy... I am hoping that now that I'm trying I will be pleasnatly surprised!

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          05.27.09, 12:22 PM Flag
    • 3 months 1st time, 5 months 2nd time, 3 months third time.

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      05.27.09, 12:19 PM Flag
      • That doesn't sound too bad - i could live with that!

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        05.27.09, 12:23 PM Flag
    • Most of the people who reply to these posts are the ones who want to brag about how easy it was for them- aren't I fertile! after one year of trying, prior to age 35, 85% of people are pregnant. In other words, if 100 people are trying it will take a year for 85 of them to get pregnant. That tells you it takes more than a month or two for most people.

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      05.27.09, 12:24 PM Flag
      • 9 months first pg (m/c) cycle after HSG, 1 year after 2 failed clomid cycles got pregnant during a 'natural' IUI (unmedicated) with twins. Have had unprotected sex for 4 cycles and no pg.

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        05.30.09, 04:45 PM Flag
      • That statistic just tells you that 85% get pregnant within a year. It doesn't mean that it takes 85% a year to get pregnant! It doesn't say anything about how many of those people were pregnant after just one month, and how many took the full year. It took us about 3 months each for our first two kids (I was 33 and 35, and closer to 6 months for the third (at 37). I was still breastfeeding while we conceived the second, but it didn't seem to affect things too much.

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        06.03.09, 03:21 AM Flag
        • idiot, it is a certain percentage each month. it starts out at around 20% and then reduces. Obviously it's not all in the first month or last month but just saying that it takes a year to reach a point where 85% are pregnant. You are dumb and don't understand math apparently.

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          06.03.09, 10:04 AM Flag
    • First time we tried both times. I was 34 and 36. I have a very regular cycle so I was pretty sure about when I ovulate.

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      05.30.09, 05:12 PM Flag
    • Try and if things don't work out, get your husband tested. It worked for me! (we discovered we needed IVF, 5 cycles later, I have a son and pregnant with #2)

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      05.30.09, 06:06 PM Flag
    • 12 cycles off the pill; started at age 29. GL!

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      05.31.09, 09:11 PM Flag
    • 3 years.

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      05.31.09, 09:21 PM Flag
    • 3 years of half-hearted trying (not tracking cycles, temps, ovulation). Got serious and followed steps in Taking Charge of Your Fertility and used an ovulation predictor kit. Pregnant 2 months later.

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      06.02.09, 08:35 PM Flag
    • Started period on June 2 of '01 (I had a party that night). Had sex on June 21 (dh was in b school and had an interview the next day). Only sex that month--was planning to ttc in a month or so. Pg at 32. Nearly as easy at 36, but mc. Then conceived after one cycle. Natural triplets, but two reabsorbed and ended up with one db Now 40 and will ttc #3 soon. Hoping it won't take longer that a few months.

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      06.02.09, 08:43 PM Flag
    • DB #1 - 2 full years including Clomid and an operation. Finally got pg after going on holdiay and basically giving up, but did notice just before that I had 2 regular cycles of 28 days each, previously they had been very irregular. DB#2 - first month of unprotected sex, also did have regular cycles. GL!

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      06.03.09, 04:09 AM Flag
      • Was the surgery for endometriosis? Did your cycles regulate right after the surgery? I'm asking b/c I'm scheduled for laproscopic surgery at the end of the month, if my current IUI cycle doesn't work.

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        06.03.09, 10:38 AM Flag
    • 9 months ectopic, scared to death that I wouldn't get pregnant again, got pregnant the 2nd month of trying (I was in my mid-20s)

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      06.03.09, 10:08 AM Flag
    • No luck this month, but it's really only been a month!

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      07.02.09, 01:23 PM Flag
      • OP here: still trying!

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        08.05.09, 02:59 PM Flag
    • 1 try for each pregnancy, at 34 and 37. If you're worried read Take Charge of Your Fertility--it will help you figure out when you ovulate.

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      08.05.09, 03:11 PM Flag
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