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SAHM here- who plans on returning to work - (teacher fwiw). So I've been out for 3 years now and working on baby 2- and every year I miss my job more- I have every intention of returning to work. Dh recently lost job- but he has a severance and we savings (we are lucky- thank goodness). We agreed that I would stay home during the small years before k for personal and financial reasons. I'm seeing this current opportunity as my golden ticket to return to work sooner than later - dh is giving me major push back- I thought he'd be really understanding given our situation right now- Any tips or btdt stories?
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05.22.09, 11:24 AM [ Flag ]
- Maybe he feels uncomfortable about you working while he is out of a job. If you are planning #2 now might not be the greatest time to start a new job anyway if you would have to leave on maternity not long after starting. If you tell dh it isn't about the money it is about your feelings that you want to do more than SAHM that might help. GL
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  05.22.09, 12:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - op: sorry if I wasn't clear- I'm already pregnant, due in the fall- we are under the assumption that dh will have a job way before I can even return to work (fall of 2010).
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    05.22.09, 12:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Oh, so he wants you to be off work until #2 is in K too? I think you have to say that you really feel ready for a bit of mental stimulation and that you will feel that you are able to be a happier parent if you return to work. My dc #2 is 18mo I have been SAHM for 4yrs and I fear for my brain!
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      05.22.09, 12:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - op: yes- well- honestly he would love it if I was a lifer SAHM like his mom (and my mom) but that was our compromise- yeah- I have to work on this with him.
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        05.22.09, 12:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- My DH had planned on staying home for a few months with our son when he was tiny. He was graduating right after I had to go back to work, so it just seemed like it would work and DH was excited about it. Well, after a couple weeks he knew staying home was not for him. He loves to spend time with DS, but he was just not cut out to be a stay at home dad. We hired a nanny, who we all loved, and I knew that our son would be having a much better time spending the day with someone who really wanted to be there with him. I think if you make it clear to your husband how much you miss working, and let him know that you think there are good reasons why this would work out well for your child too, he will understand. You can never tell about going back to work until you've actually given staying home full time a try! Plans change, and that's OK.
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  05.22.09, 12:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]