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  • I am okay about my marriage when I'm on antidepressants but miserable when I'm off them. DH has some combo of ADD and aspergers that got much worse with age and responsibilities. I'm staying in the marriage for the kids and because it would be horrible financially for DCs if we split. DH is a good father & we do well as loving parents. No fights, kids happy, just me so miserable inside.

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    05.22.09, 11:16 AM [ Flag ]

    • have you always had a martyr complex? you made your choices -- now you can choose how you feel about those choices. grow up

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      05.22.09, 11:17 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • the choices she may have made years ago in the situation as it stood then have nothing to do with the sitaution she may find herself in now. Life changes and so your feelings will change with it. I hope you're as hard on yourself

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        05.22.09, 11:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • OR: I absolutely am. Life is way too short for this kind of wallowing and self-induced misery. Everything can change in a moment -- I force myself to embrace the positive that every day brings me, rather than wallow in self-pity and complaints about other people or their behavior.

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          05.22.09, 11:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • so what's your suggestion? OP leave marriage? we dpm

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            05.22.09, 11:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • OP: I knew I'd get flamed when I wrote this. And I know what it sounds like so I expect it. I do suck it up IRL. I don't complain to a soul. Just every now and then I just need to vent anonymously. It helps to admit it somewhere & then I go on with life. I would like to know what OR thinks is the grown up choice--not being snarky. I made a mistake in my marriage but I have been a good parent. I am reluctant to put my DCs in financially bad situation. Would she say life is short & leave & be responsible for your happiness? Or is it stay with DH & see the good points? (The latter I have tried to do for years & it just will not work for me tho I am good at faking it on the outside)

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            05.22.09, 12:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • The logical answer to the problem you've set up for yourself is to keep taking the antidepressants.

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      05.22.09, 11:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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