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WWYD? I have a friend who is really more of a mutual friend of someone I am close with. She has shown a great deal of interest in our friendship and that of our 5-year-old DDs. During one playdate her daughter brought out a large kitchen knife and told my daughter she was going to cut her head off because she didn't want to play dress-up like my DD did. Her mom didn't hear the exchange, but did take away the knife. This week during a playdate she told my daugther they should pretend to kill me. I don't want to pursue this friendship or do playdates again. Do I tell the mom why or just avoid get togethers? We belong to the same beach club and will see them all summer.
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You allowed your child to have another playdate with a child who had threatened her with a knife?
[ Reply | Options ]This child has major psychological issues and sounds very dangerous. Keep her away from your dd as her behavior will start to affect your dd. Definitely tell the mom, she might not believe you but she needs to know.
[ Reply | Options ]Oh, please. You cannot possibly know if the child has major issues. Maybe the babysitter let her watch a violent movie and she's just trying to deal with it through play. Tell the mom; watch the kid, but don't write her off as a serial killer at 5.
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No way to know based on those 2 incidents. There is so much violence in the media -- could just be a response. I will agree that it needs to be explored and definitely signals at least minor issues. But to says she has "major psychological issues"? Not enough information. I once had a kindergarten student say to another child, "Let's have sex!" Turns out she didn't have any major issues, she was just watching too much inappropriate TV.
[ Reply | Options ]The child had a knife in her hand when she told op's kid she was going to cut off her head. Would be bad enough if the knife was imaginary or one that came with her Melissa and Doug cutting food set, but it was real. The kid has issues. Very strange that OP allowed another playdate after that.
[ Reply | Options ]Well, I agree that I wouldn't have allowed another playdate, and I would have told the other mother what was said right away. But the fact that she had a real knife versus an M&D play one or an imaginary one is not really relevant. The intent/sentiment expressed is the problem (since no one was actually hurt) and may signal a serious problem or may just be an exposure issue. What if it were 2 boys and one pretended to shoot the other one? I doubt there would be such a strong reaction.
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