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Do you think a young woman who worked as a call girl can ever have "normal" functional relationships and overcome?
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]if she is able to compartmentalize (business vs. personal), and hasn't been abused/mistreated, i say yes.
[ Reply | Options ]but wouldn't you say they would have to have been abused to have made this choice? i just can not believe it is ever done out of pure financial need. not in this culture.
[ Reply | Options ]disagree... i think there are many levels of "call girl" and the higher-class ones might be quite normal, just making money.
[ Reply | Options ]regardless of the fee schedule it is still prostitution. sex with strangers, many of whom may be entirely repulsive, violent, degrading, abusive, etc... i am sure the psychic trauma must be massive.
[ Reply | Options ]I think childhood sexual abuse is one of the main factors in becoming a prostitute. In our culture, a person might have at least the appearance of choices leading up to that, but often sex abuse underlies it. And in some places (including the US, unfortunately), young people are trafficked, which is in itself childhood sexual abuse.
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do any of you know someone who overcame this? do you have any long term follow up?
[ Reply | Options ]I know somebody who was a heroin-addicted prostitute in Colombia for years (like 15), and now she has a 16-y.o. ds and lives in the states and is fine. Fine meaning has a job, nice life, pretty normal-seeming, totally drug-free. Her rel'n with her daughter is kind of tenuous b/c of daughter's fraught childhood w/mom, but daughter seems very high-functioning.
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I'm a psychiatrist. I also had sex for money in college. I did it for about 6 months. I did not do it for the money, though that was a nice perk. I did it because I honestly found it fun, exciting, and a turn on. Stopped because of a relationship, though he knew what I did, and because it stopped being fun. Don't regret it and actually kind of miss the excitement. Yes, in a normal marriage now with the man I stopped for 10 years ago.
[ Reply | Options ]this proves my theory that psychiatrists are often more damaged than their patients.
[ Reply | Options ]Not sure how my one experience "proves" anything nor indicates any level of damage. Just answering op's question about whether anyone can have a normal relationship afterward and my experience shows that, at least for one person, yes they can. Someone above asked about a Psychiatrist responding, which is the only reason I included that piece of info.
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thanks for this. consider the case of someone who stopped, as you did, for a relationship and then started doing it again. wouldn't this "relapse" suggest real pathology and an inability to leave that life?
[ Reply | Options ]I think it would entirely depend on the individual's reasons for stopping/starting, the repercussions on the relationship, and whether or not they like the job. Certainly if they are not enjoying the work and it is causing problems in the relationship, then yes I would say it is unhealthy (kind of similar to substance abuse).
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