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  • FTWOHMs, help please. I used to work 80 hours weeks, and then when i had db, my boss told me to leave at 6 every day. So i do. I get in at 10. It's been 2 years, and while my boss grumbles about it periodically (everyone else works much later), everyone understands that this is my deal. Was just told by my boss that I'm not "available" enough and that he needs more time with me. How do I handle? as it is, the time I spend with DB in the morning and evenings isn't enough. But our family desperately needs my income, so i need this job. Should I ask my boss how i can rejigger things to make him feel that I'm available? (I'm always available on cell and email pretty much round the clock). I guess coming in an hour earlier wouldn't kill me- should i suggest that to my boss? I want to give him the impression that I am accommodating his needs, but I also don't want to give him the opportunity to ask me to change my current schedule very much. Advice, please. tia

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    03.26.09, 08:32 AM [ Flag ]

    • what time does everyone else get to work? imho it would be easier to come in earlier than to leave later. I would try that.

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      03.26.09, 08:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • most people get in at 10, but my boss gets in at 8am. Should I ASK him about getting in earlier so that i appear to be accommodating him and proving to be flexible and wanting to make this work, or is that giving him an opening to make me change my schedule even more so?

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        03.26.09, 08:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • definitely. you need to be flexible

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          03.26.09, 08:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • np- I'd come in at 8. I'm in the same position, and I do think that if you want the job you need to give it a higher priority (not higher than dc, but higher than where it is now). I'd come in when boss comes in and leave at 5:30-6. That way he has more time than me. You have some alone time with him which is important too. I get into work at 6:30 and leave at 6. I think my hours are great :-) DH leaves later and spends time with DC in the morning. I spend time in the evening. Nanny gets DC to take a long nap in the afternoon, so bedtime is pushed back. I always have 2-2.5 hrs with DC on weekday nights.

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          03.26.09, 08:55 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • ^ and if you can you should outsource everything else. Housekeeping/cleaning at least once a week, and cooking. I know this costs money, but I would rather spend my time with DC than doing chores they can't help me with.

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            03.26.09, 08:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • Do you like your job? If so, try going in at 9. If not, can you look for something with less hours?

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          03.26.09, 08:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Can you make it a point to do some work at night after DB goes to sleep? That way he'll know you're "on the clock" even when you're not in the office.

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      03.26.09, 08:36 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • The problem is that most people don't get "credit" for coming in earlier - the face time has to be all at night. I would consider trying to negotiate it so that you work in the office from 11 or noon until as late as it takes.

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      03.26.09, 08:49 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • can you pick 1-2 days a week where you stay later? I'm sorry by the way - that's really sucky.

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      03.26.09, 08:49 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Can you stay late a night or two each week? I know its really hard but I try to do this and it really helps with comaraderie among my co-workers and gives my bosses the idea that if I had to I could be around - they seem like they understand that your situation is different but I would be careful about seeming inflexible. Unfortunately at these high pressure jobs a lot of "bonding" gets done after hours and that's when people notice your absence most.

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      03.26.09, 08:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • for what it's worth...get your facetime/goodwill in now...then maybe you can get your old hours back when db is older. they need you around more than IMO

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      03.26.09, 09:03 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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