How many playdates does your kindergartener have per week?

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  • How many playdates does your kindergartener have per week?

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    • none. we are so active with sports during the week and on weekends now that he sees his friends then. on holidays we usually try to plan something with his buddies. occasionally on the weekends we get together for dinner with someone. definitely not like his early years. i couldn't live without those playdates (sahm). i pretty much had it scattered amongst friends so there was one everyday!

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      02.27.09, 10:20 AM Flag
      • same here. dc used to have playdates 4/week in preschool. now in k, maybe 1 every 2-3 weeks. he is extremely busy with afterschool sports/classes.

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        02.27.09, 10:22 AM Flag
    • On average, 0.

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      02.27.09, 10:35 AM Flag
    • one, sometimes two.

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      02.27.09, 11:04 AM Flag
    • none. I was never particularly fond of playdates to begin with and am grateful for Kindergarten because now I believe they are even more unnecessary

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      02.27.09, 11:06 AM Flag
      • i don't love them, but dc does and he is an only so i try to let him play with a buddy once a week. he also has after school a couple of days now so has a chance to socialize there too.

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        02.27.09, 11:09 AM Flag
      • np That's how I feel. Dc's K teacher went on and on and on about how the kids should be having playdates, though. Really annoying.

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        02.27.09, 11:15 AM Flag
        • Huh? Why? The kids see each other in the classroom, during recess, etc. etc. 5 times a week for more than six hours. That is still not enough?

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          02.27.09, 11:19 AM Flag
          • sometimes when teachers say this it is to gently encourage parents of dcs having some socialization issues to create more one-on-one situations and also to maybe observe what they themselves observe in class. but i think in general pre-k and k teachers push the whole playdate concept.

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            02.27.09, 11:23 AM Flag
          • np: its not the same as having uninterrupted one on one time with your friend. i don't think its alwasy hugely important, but it is a different thing than being in school.

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            02.27.09, 11:24 AM Flag
            • agree

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              02.27.09, 11:24 AM Flag
            • depends on the child. I can see how this is pushed during the first few weeks but now that we are pass the half way mark playdates don't make much sense anymore (during the week, that is).

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              02.27.09, 11:26 AM Flag
              • i don't get it. why don't they make much sense? when i was growing up we played with our friends after school every day.

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                02.27.09, 11:28 AM Flag
                • NP: I was thinking the same. Kind of sad that kindergarteners are now too busy to play with friends. When else do you get to do this?

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                  02.27.09, 12:45 PM Flag
                  • nnp: ita. i don't really understand. what else are kids supposed to do after school if not play w friends. i get that as they get older they have homework and sports, but how into sports is a kind in K?

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                    02.27.09, 12:55 PM Flag
            • ITA. I think play is still very central at age 5-6.

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              02.27.09, 11:31 AM Flag
              • agree. i also think dcs of any age just want to hang out with each other without the structure of sports, classes, etc.

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                02.27.09, 11:37 AM Flag
    • one or two. usually DC comes out at the end of the day and asks to have a playdate that afternoon. very few are pre-arranged. classes 2x a week after school and sports on the weekend (soccer & swimming).

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      02.27.09, 11:13 AM Flag
      • Do you have a lot of classmates right in your neighborhood?

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        02.27.09, 12:45 PM Flag
    • None. After six hours at school with her classmates she's not really interested during the week (plus there is hardly any time for that). And on weekends we usually go to somebody's bday party anyway.

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      02.27.09, 11:18 AM Flag
    • None. Commutes to a citywide school. This is the biggest (and only) drawback of choosing a citywide that involves a commute.

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      02.27.09, 11:21 AM Flag
      • i would hate that. though i'm sure i would love the school otherwise!

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        02.27.09, 11:24 AM Flag
        • Yep. It has definitely been an adjustment.

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          02.27.09, 11:29 AM Flag
          • i am poster with only above and this was a consideration for us. we didn't get into a citywide but we passed on a spot at one of the top districtwides because the commute would have been hell. luckily, we have a great zoned school. still, it was hard to turn down

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            02.27.09, 11:31 AM Flag
            • Well, if you have a great zoned school, then it's not THAT hard. Our zoned school is questionable. It's not horrible, but it is facing some very serious challenges.

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              02.27.09, 11:33 AM Flag
              • no, i realize we're lucky. it's just some people think we were nuts to turn down lab.

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                02.27.09, 11:36 AM Flag
                • We took it! We love it. But yes loooong day for the kid.

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                  02.27.09, 11:37 AM Flag
                • np = did you turn down Lab for 41/3?

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                  02.27.09, 11:47 AM Flag
                  • yes

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                    02.27.09, 11:50 AM Flag
                    • We took Lab instead of 3. Had my doubts for a little bit, just because the commute is pretty intense for her, and because I miss walking her to school. But Lab is great, really special. I guess either decision would have been good, she would have been fine at 3 too. Are you at 3 or 41?

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                      02.27.09, 04:16 PM Flag
                      • 41. i sometimes question whether lab would have been the better choice, but the truth is we are very happy where we are.

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                        02.27.09, 04:29 PM Flag
                        • Excellent!

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                          02.27.09, 04:35 PM Flag
                        • glad to hear you're happy, too! just think: we might have known each other irl!

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                          02.27.09, 04:37 PM Flag
                        • we might already!

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                          02.27.09, 04:37 PM Flag
      • Yes my dc too. Her ride is an hour. We have a nice long restful period after she gets off the bus and before dinner, I am with her two days/week after school and it's a nice time to hang out together. And we still see preschool friends on the weekends, and of course the weekend birthday party is a constant.

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        02.27.09, 11:34 AM Flag
    • about one a month. but he's got siblings, so that's most of his play time right there.

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      02.27.09, 11:53 AM Flag
    • 1-3. goes to a great zoned public (brooklyn) where everyone lives nearby. it's a big plus for DC to be able to easily have a friend over or go over to a friend's place after school. right now Dc and friend are in the backyard drawing with chalk and making a "birdhouse" with some bricks and twigs. DC also does classes/afterschool on other days.

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      02.27.09, 12:51 PM Flag
    • usually one, but they are with former preschool classmates or a neighbor, not usually with kindergarten classmates

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      02.27.09, 01:03 PM Flag
    • Zero or one. She is tired after school! She has activities twice a week and sometimes she has a playdate on one additional day.

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      02.27.09, 01:04 PM Flag
    • every week is different. 0-4, depending on what else is going on.

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      02.27.09, 01:16 PM Flag
    • Usually 0 - I have a job & use after school most days for child care - the one day I don't it is because dc has an out-of-school activity. I feel bad, but can't afford a nanny just so dc can have play dates - had two all year

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      02.27.09, 04:23 PM Flag
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