02.22.09, 07:58 AM 9 replies
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I asked my nanny to do something she didn't want to do and later heard her (while she was changing my 8-month old baby's diaper) saying to him, "You're mommy's such an asshole." She said she said she called someone ELSE an asshole but I don't believe her. She also doesn't always answer my phone calls when I try and call her during the day, but will answer when my husband calls. Would you fire her?

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  • I asked my nanny to do something she didn't want to do and later heard her (while she was changing my 8-month old baby's diaper) saying to him, "You're mommy's such an asshole." She said she said she called someone ELSE an asshole but I don't believe her. She also doesn't always answer my phone calls when I try and call her during the day, but will answer when my husband calls. Would you fire her?

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    02.22.09, 07:58 AM Flag ]

    • Nip it in the bud, yes. First of all, I would not keep a babysitter that stresses me out enough to make me want to post on the UB. Also, even if you let it go this time, you'll always be frustrated with her selective phone pick-ups. Why suffer for the next few months when you can nip it in the bud now?

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      02.22.09, 08:10 AM Flag

    • I would fire her asap- no need for added stress. It appears that she doesn't respect you ( not answering your call- WHEN does a nanny not have her phone)and thats so important when you can't be home.)

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      02.22.09, 08:17 AM Flag

      • ita. and the fact that she answers when your dh calls is very telling. it's a dynamic that some nannies try and it's bad--she thinks that she can keep her job if she keeps the father happy, assuming that he ultimately controls the decisions. nip it in the bud.

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        02.22.09, 08:51 AM Flag

    • Yes.

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      02.22.09, 08:19 AM Flag

    • Fire her ass! She was calling you an asshole, not someone else. It's like when my teenagers say something under their breath and when I call them out, they always say...ohh, I wasn't talking about you. Yeah right. Any employee calls me an asshole in earshot has 10 minutes to pack up their shit and get out. The phone thing would bother me too. When I call to check on my children I expect you to pick up or call me back as soon as possible if in the middle of something. ASAP does not mean 2 hours later.

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      02.22.09, 08:19 AM Flag

      • ita. and the fact that she thinks it's ok to use that word in front your db regardless of who she was talking about shows really bad judgment.

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        02.22.09, 08:52 AM Flag

    • absolutely, no question. even if she was calling someone else that, i wouldn't want my nanny using that kind of language in front of my db. she was talking about you, though.

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      02.22.09, 08:50 AM Flag

    • fire her.

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      02.22.09, 09:16 AM Flag

    • Yes, I would let her go, and I'm not one of those knee-jerk "fire your nanny" posters. It sounds like she doesn't respect you as DC's mother, which is bad dynamic with your caregiver.

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      02.22.09, 09:20 AM Flag
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