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Going to sleep with someone new for the first time in 16 years this coming weekend and I have two questions: will I seem like a prude if I ask for the lights to be off? It will make me feel less inhibited. Also: anything I can do to make myself feel more attractive naked?

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  • Going to sleep with someone new for the first time in 16 years this coming weekend and I have two questions: will I seem like a prude if I ask for the lights to be off? It will make me feel less inhibited. Also: anything I can do to make myself feel more attractive naked?

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    01.12.09, 07:38 AM Flag ]
    • I think you may want to "spin" things in a positive way, like "please turn off the lights" (which sounds like you hate your body) to just shutting them off yourself and not mentioning it or maybe dimming them at least? Also, I read some article in some cheesy women's mag and to get ready for your date, spend the day making yourself feel good. Hit the gym (great for body image), shower/shave/nice lotions/etc eat well so you're not starving but don't pig out and put on some nice lingerie plus makeup, clothing, whatever makes you feel good. TRUST ME he is not obessing over your "love handles" the way you are!!!!!

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      01.12.09, 07:42 AM Flag
      • ita

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        01.12.09, 07:43 AM Flag
      • I have no love handles, luckily, nice tight abs but definitely stretch-marky-saggy-post-two-children breasts. will do all you suggested, thanks.

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        01.12.09, 07:45 AM Flag
        • In some ways I like my dw's breasts better post children. Without getting too graphic, I love the image -- when she is on her knees -- of her breasts swaying. There is something really hot about that image.

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          01.12.09, 07:54 AM Flag
          • no shit. I love that about you, but I think you're probably unique in that, no?

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            01.12.09, 08:00 AM Flag
            • I'll bet I am not. There is a pretty big segment of the porn industry for "natural" breasts. There is a reason for that. The reason -- there are a lot of guys out there (like me) who like the look of natural breasts. One of the things about natural breasts is they react to gravity and the environment. I say celebrate that. PLUS, let's be honest... we (the men) don't look at women with 1/100th the critical eye you women look at yourselves/each other.

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              01.12.09, 09:50 AM Flag
              • really?? you're making me feel so much better. you think he'll still think I'm beautiful and sexy? Hourglass shape, thin, short legs though and those boobs...

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                01.12.09, 09:56 AM Flag
                • Men find women attractive. Period. There is something about the female form. The grace of your curves. The way you can be soft yet strong. The promise of it all. I have been involved with women of almost every shape and size in my life. I could tell you what was special and sexy about each and every one of them. You are beautiful. Go. Relax and have fun.

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                  01.12.09, 10:03 AM Flag
    • candles

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      01.12.09, 07:47 AM Flag
    • I always find that I feel more attractive after a good sugar scrub in the shower and some good illuminating lotion. That and candles!

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      01.12.09, 07:58 AM Flag
      • what's illuminating lotion?

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        01.12.09, 08:01 AM Flag
        • Nivea has a brand, it has shiny stuff in it and it makes your skin glow. Kind of cheesy, but helps me feel pretty...

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          01.12.09, 08:08 AM Flag
          • np - not spam - i have that lotion and on top of everything else - it smells really wonderful.

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            01.12.09, 08:18 AM Flag
    • leave the bra on until things are so far gone that no one cares anymore what anything looks like

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      01.12.09, 08:09 AM Flag
      • best post of the day. (I know it's early, but you really nailed it.)

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        01.12.09, 08:19 AM Flag
      • but what if he tries to take it off earlier?

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        01.12.09, 08:20 AM Flag
        • you mean like during dessert? If things are getting going and he goes for the bra, then you're about to get your breasts kissed and touched! its not bad news!

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          01.12.09, 08:24 AM Flag
          • good point :-) thanks

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            01.12.09, 08:34 AM Flag
            • What makes you so sure his privates are so fantastic looking? LOL

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              01.12.09, 09:30 AM Flag
              • He has a great body. So I guess that makes me feel a little intimidated.

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                01.12.09, 09:34 AM Flag
                • Well - he must see something great in your body, right?

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                  01.12.09, 09:38 AM Flag
                  • yes, he does, but he hasn't seen me naked! I look terrific in clothes!

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                    01.12.09, 09:56 AM Flag
    • Tip #1-- Have fun!

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      01.12.09, 09:37 AM Flag
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