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  • I am 35 and got my muchal results which were 1/5000 for DS. I am still really concered that there could be other disorders that only an amnio can detect, so I have scheduled an amnio for next Friday. I am freaking out that I will M/C. This is my first pregnancy and I feel like an amnio is the only thing that will clear my hear for the next 5 months, but I am petrified of the small risk of M/C. If we learn from the amnio that there are severe issues with the baby, we have decided that we would terminate. Can someone make me chill out about getting this procedure? I'm driving myself and husband crazy.

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    08.21.08, 12:57 PM [ Flag ]
    • What issues are you looking for with the anmio?

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      08.21.08, 12:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Basically any type of genetic disorder. We want to have all the info we can. I am just so nervous about the small chance of M/C.

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        08.21.08, 01:01 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • so, you want this test that is driving you crazy to find out about something genetic when you don't even know what the test can and can't tell you? Okie dokie then...

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          08.21.08, 01:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • she knows its more complete and reliable than the nuchal (or any other prenatal testing, i believe). if she wants more info, this is the way to go

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            08.21.08, 01:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • not sure i'm following you. i was just looking for advice on what others in similar situations have done.

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            08.21.08, 01:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • if you are this worried about this, you are going to never survive your dc's childhood. I'd suggest beginning some sort of therapy to help you deal with the anxiety. I personally did not do the amnio after the nuchal (similar age and similar results). everyone is different, but I would not terminate-I also figured there is so much we cannot control in our lives (esp things that the amnio cannot predict like autism for example), to stress over this stuff would make me nuts.

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      08.21.08, 01:01 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • np: yours is an asinine reply.

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        08.21.08, 01:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • not really. if op cannot manage anxiety now over things she cannot control (or even knows about based on response above), she is going to face way bigger hurdles over things in her dc's childhood.

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          08.21.08, 01:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • yes - really. yours is an asinine reply. Her question wasn't "if i can't handle this how will i handle childhood?" Some folks are anxious and need handholding.

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            08.21.08, 01:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • nnp ITA with you. This is the best reply here. NO need for her to call you assinine.

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            08.21.08, 01:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • What's your bigger fear - miscarriage or abnormality? Try to make your peace with whichever is the lesser of two evils for you. Using this as expression, not as judgement of good/ evil btw. Good luck.

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      08.21.08, 01:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • OR: in other words, which do you fear more: miscarrying a healthy baby, or carrying one with a defect/ disability? However, you should also arm yourself with the risk level of amnio - it is very small.

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        08.21.08, 01:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • i had an amnio at 35, but without a nuchal -- it wasn't a common test back then. even if it had been i beleive i woudl have wanted the amnio for the same reasons you do - i wanted info and i woudl have,in some cases, elected to terminate. it was all good, i was fine, baby was fine. the m/c rate is quite low. that said, at some ppint you d have to let go b/c evne with a perfect amnio there can be issues.

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      08.21.08, 01:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Calm down. Get the amnio. You will be ok.

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      08.21.08, 01:05 PM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
    • Out of interest, how come you didn't elect to have CVS testing instead?

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      08.21.08, 01:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I was you--sort of. I'd had previous miscarriages though and opted to skip the amnio. It tests for some disorders, but not all so I thought the risk of m/c (even though it's very very small) was not worth it.

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      08.21.08, 01:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I had amnio at 35. I was scared. Totally not a big deal. Over before you know it. I have wonderful healthy boy now. Don't worry. Don't suffer.

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      08.21.08, 01:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Anxiety in pregnancy is so difficult. Try to trust that everything will work out as it is meant to be. I had an amnio as well and was very nervous but found the procedure to be quite simple. I focused on looking at my husband, not looking at the "tools" used, and tried to relax. Good luck and talk to your doctor about your anxiety. They may be able to help.

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      08.21.08, 01:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • np I'm sorry but everything doesn't work out as it is meant to be. I hate that response. OP is nervous - more nervous than the situation requires but it's understandable. Some things just happen sometimes and it sucks and it's not "meant to be"

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        08.21.08, 01:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • this is old but...that is my opinion only of course...I do have faith that things happen as they should and yes of course they often suck.

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          08.25.08, 07:40 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I recently had a CVS and was horribly nervous about mc, having experienced a spontaneous mc in my first pregnancy. The anticipation of the procedure was much worse than the procedure itself. I assume you are going to a top ranked person in the city? That helped to alleviate some of my concern, knowing that my doctor's stats for complications were much lower than the national norms of 1/200-1/300....GL, you will be fine. Your anxiety is normal. The peace of mind the results bring is incredible - we just received our normal results this week.

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      08.21.08, 03:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • PS - some of the posters above seem to confuse screening and diagnostic tests. The first trimester screen (nuchal plus bloods) is a screening test that is only 85-90% effective at detecting chromosomal problem (and only 3 of them at that). CVS and Amnio are diagnostic and are 99.99% effective at detecting chromosomal abnormalities. GL

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        08.21.08, 03:27 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I've had 3 miscarraiges, and had to do both cvs and amnio on my current pregnancy (twins)...two big needles for both procedures. I was perfectly fine after...no issues at all. You;ll be fine.

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      08.21.08, 03:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • previous poster: so sorry for your losses. why did you have to do CVS and amnio? Was CVS not conclusive? Just curious...GL with your twins!

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        08.21.08, 03:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • CVS came back showing an issue with one twin and no issues with the other--so they weren't sure if it was a lab issue or something else, and suggested I did amnio. Thankfully amnio came back "clean". I did PGD during IVF...so was hoping that this would be the result. BTW, I used Dr. Skupsky (sp?) at NYP...amazing!

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          08.21.08, 03:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • That must have been stressful but glad that everything worked out so well. Enjoy them and GL with the rest of the pregnancy!

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            08.21.08, 04:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • np: my OB (at NYP) said they don't do CVS on twins.

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        08.22.08, 10:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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