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  • I have a three-year-old and a new baby. The baby's "witching hours" are from 6 to 8pm, just when I'm trying to get my older son fed, bathed, and into bed. I feel terrible, but the baby spends a lot of time crying in her swing while I'm running around with my DS. The only thing that calms the baby down is to be swaddled, held, and "shushed", but I just can't do it during these crazy evening hours. (My DH usually works late.) Please reassure me that I'm not scarring the baby for life. I feel terrible letting her scream, but I only have two hands and I don't know what else to do. Anyone been there?

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    08.14.08, 06:32 PM [ Flag ]

    • You have made the right choice. Your 3 year old needs his routine and your care right now more than your safe and comfortable newborn.

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      08.14.08, 06:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • BTDT and don't worry, it only lasted for a couple of months. If possible, put the baby in a Bjorn or sling so you can carry her around while you feed and do the bedtime routine. I sometimes had to cut short my back-rubbing with my ds b/c baby was crying and needed attention. it was hard but i didn't always choose the 3yo over the baby. I couldn't let her scream like that. Sometimes the 3yo resented it, but fwiw, they get along famously well now (baby is 9mo) and he has gotten used to sharing me and being patient when i'm needing to attend to the baby.

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        08.14.08, 06:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • ^^^sorry - meant to respond to the OP post - not this one...

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          08.14.08, 06:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • OP: I was thinking of trying to use a carrier but I have a bad back and I can't risk having it go out on me while I'm alone with two kids. Maybe I'll try our Ergo for a little while on a weekend to see how it feels. TX for the advice.

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            08.14.08, 06:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • it really does get easier. our colic stopped around 3 months and by 4 or 5 months i really felt like we were all (me, dh AND our older ds) in the swing of the whole 2-kids thing. good luck to you!

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              08.14.08, 06:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • It's totally fine. My colicky younger child screamed for six months straight. He's a lovely secure child now.

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      08.14.08, 06:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I will be there soon, 2nd on the way! You sound like a great mom and are doing great!

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      08.14.08, 06:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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