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  • cheating on my dh. you'd think i would feel guilty, but i don't

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    08.14.08, 03:31 PM [ Flag ]

    • think about the look on your children's faces when you tell them Daddy won't be living with them anymore. Seriously. You need help.

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      08.14.08, 03:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • This is why I never cheated while married. I did not want to be the reason my DS was the only kid at the game with no dad.

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        11.04.08, 09:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • What is your problem lady? Stop with your comments about "your children's faces". Children will be hurt regardless. That's not this woman's issue. She has found something that makes her happy at the moment. Keeping the status quo in an unhappy marriage isn't always best for the kids either. At the moment, the mother is happy and that happiness is trickling down to the kids. Leave her alone.

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        11.10.08, 06:40 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I will pray for you

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      08.14.08, 03:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • why not?

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      08.14.08, 03:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • i don't know. maybe because it's been a long time coming? i've tried to "change" for dh, but he's never happy with me because he won't make the changes in his life for that to happen. i've given him 5 years (of the b.s.) and i finally just said "forget it." i'm not ready to be a single parent, but i was ready for a change

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        08.14.08, 03:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Was it all that you fantasized it would be?

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      08.14.08, 03:51 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I'm about to join you. My only guilt will be which of the men I choose to have an affair with.

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      08.14.08, 03:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • really? you have two to choose from. why not just do both together?

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        08.14.08, 04:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • They're brothers and I'm trying not to be totally sleazy. However the one that I want the most is just seperated and still working on his marriage. The one that wants me the most, just divorced wife #3 and is sooo much fun. They don't know about each other.

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          08.14.08, 07:01 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • i remember having a 3-way with 2 best friends. one was actually engaged at the time. they didn't touch each other so it was amazing. oh i forgot, another time was with two best friends. same scenario, same outcum

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            08.14.08, 07:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • We'll I think one would go for it but the one that's seperating from his wife...I can't see it. Anyway that's not really what I'm looking for.

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              08.16.08, 07:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • I'm having an affair with a father and son.

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            08.15.08, 10:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • you are disgusting and have no morals. If you aren't happy get out of your marriage. don't cheat.

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      08.14.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • save the sanctimommy crap for someone else

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        08.14.08, 06:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • NP. Oh wow. So now it is sanctimommy to not condone infidelity? I'll be sure to tell my kid when his wife/girlfriend cheats on him, hey, no big deal. Only sanctimonious people think cheating is bad. Grow up, OP.

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          08.14.08, 06:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • Wait. I'm not done yet (I am PP). FREAKING SELF ABSORBED you are. You're not ready to be a single parent? Really? How about your children? Are they ready to be children of divorce in part because mom is a cheating justifier? I can see why your DH Has been working so damned hard to change you. I don't like you, either.

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            08.14.08, 06:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • blah, blah, blah. get over yourself. don't judge people unless you can really relate or at least be empathetic. glad your life is so perfect

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              08.14.08, 08:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

              • The whole tone of your post is sadder than the responses you're getting. If you really need to feel good, then step back and take a wider view. Ultimately, you may feel a loss of self-control and respect that you probably can't afford. Hot sex, anticipation, naughty and new is good for a few minutes but if this was what you needed, you'd have been divorced by now. If you want to love yourself and feel good, Live beyond your current emotional means. If you look back with regret, that sorrow can't be pinned on your 'unavailable' marriage partner; If you need to be done w/him-don't react-act willfully and w/clear intent. I hope you find your way through the distraction you're choosing and find some real resolution.Best of Luck.

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                08.14.08, 08:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

                • btw that is empathy; I can relate and I feel so sad that you're in pain. The part when I stopped getting high off the kicks- and started faking the funk there- was much sadder than where I began. There really are positive ways to be 'self-ish'; I hope you connect w/some.

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                  08.14.08, 08:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • I'm a np and I completely agree with the above. Nothing sanctimommy about it. You seem to have your own feelings about being a single parent analysed, but you don't appear to have spared a thought about yr kids in this nasty little scenario.

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              08.16.08, 04:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • so are you planning on staying in the marriage, short term or long term?

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      08.16.08, 07:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • There is no reason to feel guilty. It's simply you choosing to exercise a different part of who you are. I commend you.

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      11.04.08, 07:36 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Since you're sparing any details and are still posting re your lack of guilty feelings, what's your post for? Aren't you reaching out for other perspectives? I think you've got some inkling that you're being (at least) very irresponsible. I posted above and reiterate here, that you risk losing respect for yourself. That's a crappy place to be. Why not take a real risk and walk away from the failed relationship; there's real courage and movement in that.

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        11.04.08, 08:38 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Talk about living vicariously-Betty Draper.

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        11.04.08, 09:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Then, why do you have the need to scream "I don't feel guilty"?

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      11.04.08, 09:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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