i really am not trying to get flamed...but wonder if you get comments on how great your child is (at school, camp, socially, etc.) and you don't necessarily see it - from a social perspective or testing (ERB, etc.) or is this normal? feel badly for not thinking hte same...

Yeah, we're not dealing w/ the nutty NYC thing (though where we are can be slightly intense--lots of money & educated, smart, successful people around). My second is all around a lot easier than my first and I think the world is also an easier place for her--she's more verbal, outgoing, less sensitive, less quirky. I love them both so much, but I do hold my breathe sometimes hoping DS holds it together out there.