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It really riles me that anyone objects to public breastfeeding. Discreet, indescreet, I DON'T CARE.
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do you think anyone who does it indescreetly (and i've seen a few who are really indiscreet about it) do it as a sort of exhibitionism? would it bug you if they did?
[ Reply | More ]np-no and no. Do you *really* think a pp nursing mom is thinking, "hey, my nursing knockers look *HOT* and I want the whole world to see them, dammit!"? For real--they are feeding their kid.
[ Reply | More ]nnp: I am 100% behind breastfeeding being publicly protected/acceptable. BUT I think to deny that there is ever motivation behind breastfeeding other than just feeding is naive.
[ Reply | More ]My darling sister often trumpets her motivation to reduce the likelihood of ear infections and other illnesses, and to provide both herself and her daughters with the prophylaxis against breast cancer that is shown in studies. I'm convinced that all of that is just a cover for her nefarious, filthy dirty desire to feed her children!!
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I don't object to it, but I do think that there are levels of appropriateness. A colleague's wife came into my husband's office the other week and while sitting there office she just started nursing. I find that a bit surprising.
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I personally think that it is fine to bf anywhere. You shouldn't have to feel like a second class citizen
[ Reply | More ]I don't think it makes anyone feel like a second class citizen to excuse yourself from a public situation (meeting, dinner, etc) and go to another, more private place to bf. And yes, I EBF my 3 children.
[ Reply | More ]You think it's fine to bf anywhere, even in someone else's office? I'd be upset if someone came into my office and opened up a McDonald's bag and started eating. But I'm not allowed to be upset if the food is breast milk?
[ Reply | More ]NP: If I have to take a position, I'm always going to come down on the side of the mother having the right to do whatever is within her own comfort level - because if you make it about another person's comfort level you get into all the hang-ups you see here, and basically no BF'ing mother could ever leave the home.
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Breastfeeding in public is like going to the bathroom in public. It's a natural, necessary thing, but it requires you to partially disrobe and expose your "naughty bits". I'm not saying breastfeeding mothers should go to the bathroom, but there should be a designated area, something in the same light as a smoking area for example.
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Fun fact: There are people with "Adult breast-feeding" or "Lactation" fetishes in the world. Secondary fun fact: I'm one of them. Oddly enough, though, I don't find breastfeeding children in public to be hot. It's probably because I'm not the kind of guy to find women with large stomachs because of childbirth hot. Really, a mother should feel free to breastfeed their child despite these painful truths of the world. But the father should be raging all over anyone staring anyways, shouldn't he?
[ Reply | More ]you people sound just like nudists. i've listened to nudists saying the same exact things you are saying in defense of nudism that you are saying in defense of breastfeeding. the simply fact of life is that there are pedophiles out there and a couple of you may be one of them, even if a few of you are too innocent and naive to tell the difference. there is a certain level of appropriateness and you cross it when you breastfeed in public. I masturbate because it releases my aggression. it's perfectly natural, and I have no problems doing it. It's not about pleasure, it's about releasing the stuff that gives me cancer before it stays in there so long I get cancer. By your rules, I should be allowed to masturbate anywhere I like, even if it is in a bathroom or in an alleyway. You need to take a good hard look at yourself and listen to the things you are saying because you guys sound absolutely ridiculous. public breastfeeding is immoral, the end.
[ Reply | More ]Hahaha, since when does lack of masturbation give you cancer? Seriously, I have NEVER heard that happen. I mean, I've heard of masturbation making hair grow on your palms, but a LACK of it giving cancer?! I'd feel deeply sorry for any religious person if that were true. Masturbation creates no benefit to anything or anyone but the one doing it. (Unless, of course, they were in the desert with someone who has a cum-drinking fetish or something) You can't really compare it to breastfeeding because it is feeding a child what comes naturally. http://www.breastfeeding.com/all_about/all_about_more.html
[ Reply | More ]it's true that ejaculating helps to prevent prostate cancer in men; however, drawing a parallel between masturbating in public and breastfeeding in public is specious beyond reason; same with nudism. We are talking about a basic biological need here--that of an infant to eat when she is hungry--which cannot be applied to either other situation. Idiot.
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I wish I was brave enough to BF in public, sitting in a bathroom stall for 20 minutes to feed your baby really sucks. I don't think people that get offended by discreet public bf really get it, where else do they expect you should do it?
[ Reply | More ]At home? Why expose an infant to the harsh world (infant is a child less than one year old [i believe])? Its immune system is practically non-existant (relying on the mothers own immunities) and stuff! Just imagine all those microbials slowly multiplying as they traverse from the toilet seat to your childs brain!!! Mwahahah... Whatever happened to the good old days when women were scared about getting HIV from sitting on a toilet seat?
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Dismissing parallels is the stuff of childish bickering. While breasts are not primary sexual organs, they are secondary sexual organs and can provoke said response. These men, with no apparent secondary sexual organs, are trying to explain by relating to the only sexual organ they have. Declaring masturbation a false parallel is akin to stating that only women can understand breastfeeding and as such only women can make judgments on the matter. Regardless, addressing the true offense of breastfeeding, in that one must disrobe in order to do so, reveals the more direct parallel of public nudity. Regardless or not of the function being preformed, what must be admitted is that a larger amount of the breast is exposed during breastfeeding than normally. (Of course, if you want to argue legals, you only need to cover your tit and hide your labia and you could walk around the streets nearly naked). So my redirect is if exposing breast should be considered offensive. (Then again, I also believe men shouldn’t be running around without shirts on but that’s a different matter.)
[ Reply | More ]First off, I'm 17...I grew up teaching myself about women and the like, relationships and such. Truth is, I believe it is okay to breast feed in public, if no children are around. Why? cause their children! I went to the beach the other day and saw a little girl running around in the nude in front of hundreds of people. Did the parents care? nope. So the same should apply to breast feeding.
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so, long story short, women should watch where they breastfeed in public. Around kids is a no-no, but if there isn't any kids around, go ahead. It's her body, she can do what she wants with it, no matter how revealing it is.
[ Reply | More ]Umm... so you're basically saying since it's her body she can just, for example, start masturbating in public and no one should have a problem with it? And I think breastfeeding around kids is more appropriate than around adults, as they're not going to see it in a sexual manner like an adult would.
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How about some combination of discretion, common sense, consideration for the sensitivities of others, AND consideration of the importance of mother's comfort and infant's need to be fed? I.e. people need to be more understanding about mom's breastfeeding in public, but at the same time said mom's need to be a little more conisderate of the fact that not everyone is quite as starry-eyed about the wonders of breast feeding as they are. Some people need to drop the prurience and prudishness, but some other people need to drop the entitled parent act. PS: I wouldn't eat or feed my child in your office without asking if it was OK, no matter what the food or route of ingestion.
[ Reply | More ]Unfortunately, as a breast feeding mom, I do feel uncomfortable breast feeding in public but occasionally I do it because the baby is hungry, crying and needs food. I try to limit but I also want to go out with baby sometimes. Some bathroom are really disgusting and I don't want to bf there so I do it out in the open but cover much as much as possible. I think most parents should sympathize the occasional need to breast feed in public, its only those people who are not parents I am really conscious of. Around younger kids should be ok but I wouldn't feel ok with teens especially boys.
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you know it's weird but I found that moving to a foreign country helped. I would have felt unbelievably awkward breast feeding in the UK, where it's really frowned upon but living in New York I have breast fed quite openly because I never imagined that Americans cared about it because they all seem quite at ease with such matters. Then again I do live in Brooklyn. So that probably skews things a bit.
[ Reply | More ]I know, what's with all these people acting as if they're entitled to an opinion? On what basis? Her body, her baby. If you can't cope, avert your gaze. If you have to discretion police, go after people yelling into their cell phones. Their unwillingness to be discreet is not something we can escape.
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