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I have a question for new moms- I have a dd, 9 mos old, working full time- 3 days out, 2 days from home, and have not been able to make the "me" time I see all of my friends able to do for themselves- how do you do it? My DH is never home at a certain time- owns own law firm, so varies from 6 to 8, and I need to take care of myself, physically (going to gym) and emotionally (dont feel like me anymore, only Sassy's mom). Any tips? Thanks!
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Sarah- she has two nicknames- Sassafras and Sassy- she just looks like a Sassy. She has this little half grin that makes you melt- she will walk all over us, I know it!
[ Reply | Options ]with a nickname like sassy, i think she will. but i wouldn't say that with any kind of pride or amusement. i'd say it with embarrassment.
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my cheeks would get all red when I was little, like a tomato; it stuck, and never bothered me. And I am not looking forward to her "walking all over us"; gees, you cant say anything on here like that on here! It is like saying she will be a heartbreaker and getting flamed for raising a future bitch!
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or: i seriously did not mean to be nasty. but people are always letting things go and being amused by things when kids are little. then, suddenly the child is 3 y .o. and they act like they've been dealt this bad hand of cards b/c their child has terrible behavior. it all starts somewhere.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: We are pretty strict on our parenting ideas, I guess you could say. My nieces and nephews use the words Excuse me, please, ask to to be excused from the table, etc. and we intend to do the same. I hate when I see kids who are rude or animals, and the parents just kind of excuse it.
[ Reply | Options ]come on people, can't you just help the OP with her original question? Why would you offer unsolicited criticism of the nickname of her child? This is another woman asking for help and that is all you can respond to? Remember how tough it was for that first year? Why not be supportive? You no nothing about her undoubtedly lovely child.
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very cute name! Could you go to the gym on weekends when your husband is there? Or early in the morning before dd wakes up (with husband there, of course:)Or even at night after husband gets home Or get the babysitter to stay for a couple of extra hours on an occasional weeknight? You really should make time for yourself and don't feel guilty about it. You will be a better mom for your dd if you are happy and healthy.
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you need two things. 1. a housekeeper, even once a week will do. 2. a regular babysitter/nanny/au pair even if you get only 3 hours a day to go to the gym, get your nails done, have a relaxing lunch, it will make all the difference in the world. You will be happy and dh will be happy.
[ Reply | Options ]you sound so entitled - not everyone can afford a housekeeper weekly, or a regular babysitter/nanny so they can go get their nails done! I agree that OP should try and get some help for some "me time" but you are over the top!
[ Reply | Options ]she works, she dh works, this is what she needs to actually feel good about herself. My housekeeper is $100 a week and when I was a SAHM and only needed a couple of hours here and there I was able to find someone for $10p/h.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I work out of the house 3 days and get home after 6 with her, so those days would not work to have that free time, and the two days from home I cant get that either- I mean how do you manage it? Does anyone feel guilty being away for that time and then wanting more to have a glass of wine with friends instead of being with your dd and dh?
[ Reply | Options ]I totally feel your pain. I try to plan one night a month at least to my self or with friends, sure my dh do things wothout dd throughout the month but that one night is dd and daddy time. I have a group of girls and we do a book club meet once a month at a resteraunt and have our drinks, gossip and talk about the book. it is fun!
[ Reply | Options ]that is such a good point, it is also very important for the kids to have time with just dad, you should never feel guilty about that. Can a friend come stay with dd for an afternoon? or any relatives near-by? I even found that I could have some me time in the house after my ds went to sleep--take a long bath with a glass of wine, or read a trashy magazine, I know it is not the same as getting out which you also must do but it might help.
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You are early in on the mom process & still sorting things out. I found it much easier to have friends come to me so wouldn't have to bother w/babysitters & since you have such a little one she can sleep right thru your lunchs & dinners so long as you time them around naps/bedtime. But as for getting completely out of the house you need to schedule one hour for gym one one of your work days & one hour for nails/errands on the other one & eat lunch at your desk.
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