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Need advice. Have started using an occasional teenage babysitter. She doesn't come form the best home situation etc. She came today very upset and not feeling well. Her mother had taken her cell phone away so she didn't have my number to call and cancel. The morning was pretty much a wash for me ending up taking care of her too (listening, giving advice etc.)She's a nice girl just comes from not so great home life. I felt bad and ended up giving her $20 anyway because she travels along way. I have her scheduled for another time. DH said we don't need the drama right now and to not use her anymore. What would you have done? Would you phase her out?
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07.10.08, 10:11 AM [ Flag ]
- I would give her a chance, if you like her and she's good with your kids. SOmetimes people have bad days, and it sounds like she could use a good role model if you can provide a bit of that
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  07.10.08, 10:13 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - np: this is good advice i agree
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    07.10.08, 10:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- it takes a village...sounds like she needs a soft spot to land. if you can provide it without too much hardship, take the high road
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  07.10.08, 10:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - Thats how I feel. Men are different I guess. OP
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    07.10.08, 10:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - To all the responders here did I do the right thing by giving her some money? Would you have done the same?
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      07.10.08, 10:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - of course you should pay her. Just wondering what do you normally pay her? You should have given that
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        07.10.08, 10:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I pay her by the hour and she really didn't do anything. So I thought the 20 would cover the coming and going?
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        07.10.08, 10:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I would have paid her the full amount. I'm sure if you'd asked her to work then she would have
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        07.10.08, 10:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        She was sick really so couldn't. She needed to get back home.
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        07.10.08, 10:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I see. Well, you didn't say she was only there for a little while, if she'd turned up sick I would have sent her home right away in a cab, with $20
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        07.10.08, 10:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        If I could I would have. We're not loaded here.
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        07.10.08, 11:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        ^^^cab for her is not cheap.
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        07.10.08, 11:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I don't think that she should have given the full amount, I never give babysitter money when she can't show up. It's not the same as a nanny. I think $20 was nice.
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        07.10.08, 10:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        the babysitter did show up
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        07.10.08, 10:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        But she didn't babysit. She would have called to cancel, but didn't have phone.
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        07.10.08, 10:37 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        well she came rather than not showing up, which shows a lot of dedication IMO. I would have given her a bit more than a token $20 but that's me
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        07.10.08, 10:38 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

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I would give her a chance, if you like her and she's good with your kids. SOmetimes people have bad days, and it sounds like she could use a good role model if you can provide a bit of that

np: this is good advice i agree

it takes a village...sounds like she needs a soft spot to land. if you can provide it without too much hardship, take the high road

Thats how I feel. Men are different I guess. OP

To all the responders here did I do the right thing by giving her some money? Would you have done the same?

of course you should pay her. Just wondering what do you normally pay her? You should have given that

I pay her by the hour and she really didn't do anything. So I thought the 20 would cover the coming and going?

I would have paid her the full amount. I'm sure if you'd asked her to work then she would have

She was sick really so couldn't. She needed to get back home.

I see. Well, you didn't say she was only there for a little while, if she'd turned up sick I would have sent her home right away in a cab, with $20

If I could I would have. We're not loaded here.

^^^cab for her is not cheap.

I don't think that she should have given the full amount, I never give babysitter money when she can't show up. It's not the same as a nanny. I think $20 was nice.

the babysitter did show up

But she didn't babysit. She would have called to cancel, but didn't have phone.

well she came rather than not showing up, which shows a lot of dedication IMO. I would have given her a bit more than a token $20 but that's me

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