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How much should I give my brother for wedding gift? They only want money. Very good/close relationship.
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07.05.08, 07:58 AM [ Flag ]
- can you get them a gift card to someplace ?
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  07.05.08, 08:05 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I think they are saving to buy a house - they are both very "frugal". So I need to write a check and I just have no idea what the number is supposed to be.
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    07.05.08, 08:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - That is tricky. We had a couple like that (mot family, exactly, but close) and we gave them one card for Home Depot (to renovate), one card to Williams-Sonoma (to stock the new kitchen) and one to Voctoria's Secret (to be funny).
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      07.05.08, 08:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - so how much in total?
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        07.05.08, 08:10 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        ^^and I like the way you did the gc - very gracious
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        07.05.08, 08:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        We were in a position to do $100 to each. She was our child's first babysitter, but there were connections with family as well. You may be in a diff position. I just didn't want to "donate" to a house, which is what they were preparing to buy as well.
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        07.05.08, 08:12 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        Eeeek! I was thinking $1k. (we earn $100k.). Am I insane?
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        07.05.08, 08:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        NP: That sounds awfully generous to me. I'd do $500. And I come from an Italian-American family accustomed to cash gifts.
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        07.05.08, 08:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        Now I feel like a cheapskate. Is $1000 a normal wedding gift ?
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        07.05.08, 08:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I honestly don't know. It sounds like a nice round generous # but he is my only sibling...
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        07.05.08, 08:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I'm going to tell myself that since this was five years ago and she was our babysitter, $300 wasn't totally cheap. Let me believe that.
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        07.05.08, 09:10 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        np: not cheap at all. Sounds very generous to me.
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        07.05.08, 10:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I don't think so. I have really rich relatives from CT (they all make at least 1 mil a year), and they all sent about about $300-$500 in gifts. I've never heard of $1000 in wedding gift/money. I was married 2 years ago.
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        07.05.08, 11:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        uh, NO.
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        07.05.08, 11:37 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        Sounds like crazy money for someone making $100K. How are your finances.
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        07.05.08, 10:15 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I agree. That's how much we make and there is no way I would give that much to my sibling.
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        07.05.08, 11:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        thats so little if you earn 100k. i would do 5000k. it is your brother after all. and this is once in a lifetime
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        07.05.08, 11:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - $25.00
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      07.05.08, 12:27 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I gave my brother 1K.
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  07.05.08, 08:56 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- We gave my husband's brother $5K but we were in a position to do so at the time. Ironically, dh has since lost his job and while we are not poor in any sense, we are definitely more frugal now. $1K sounds good.
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Posted June 5, 2008 (50 replies)

How much should I give my brother for wedding gift? They only want money. Very good/close relationship.

can you get them a gift card to someplace ?

I think they are saving to buy a house - they are both very "frugal". So I need to write a check and I just have no idea what the number is supposed to be.

That is tricky. We had a couple like that (mot family, exactly, but close) and we gave them one card for Home Depot (to renovate), one card to Williams-Sonoma (to stock the new kitchen) and one to Voctoria's Secret (to be funny).

so how much in total?

^^and I like the way you did the gc - very gracious

We were in a position to do $100 to each. She was our child's first babysitter, but there were connections with family as well. You may be in a diff position. I just didn't want to "donate" to a house, which is what they were preparing to buy as well.

Eeeek! I was thinking $1k. (we earn $100k.). Am I insane?

NP: That sounds awfully generous to me. I'd do $500. And I come from an Italian-American family accustomed to cash gifts.

Now I feel like a cheapskate. Is $1000 a normal wedding gift ?

I honestly don't know. It sounds like a nice round generous # but he is my only sibling...

I'm going to tell myself that since this was five years ago and she was our babysitter, $300 wasn't totally cheap. Let me believe that.

np: not cheap at all. Sounds very generous to me.

I don't think so. I have really rich relatives from CT (they all make at least 1 mil a year), and they all sent about about $300-$500 in gifts. I've never heard of $1000 in wedding gift/money. I was married 2 years ago.

uh, NO.

Sounds like crazy money for someone making $100K. How are your finances.

I agree. That's how much we make and there is no way I would give that much to my sibling.

thats so little if you earn 100k. i would do 5000k. it is your brother after all. and this is once in a lifetime

$25.00

I gave my brother 1K.

We gave my husband's brother $5K but we were in a position to do so at the time. Ironically, dh has since lost his job and while we are not poor in any sense, we are definitely more frugal now. $1K sounds good.

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