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recently hired a young babysitter (19) who wears way too much perfume--so much that my kids have the scent on them after she leaves---what do I say? I don't want to offend her obviously
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06.23.08, 12:58 PM [ Flag ]
- nothing...
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  06.23.08, 12:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - ita
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    - third this. It washes off, don't lie and make up some lame allergy excuse
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      06.23.08, 01:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - np it's not lame. I get asthma if I'm around strong perfume very long. It does happen and its not lame
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        06.23.08, 01:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        Then be kind and honest'
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        06.23.08, 01:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        that's what I recomended to OP, sort of. I think it would be more kind to tell a white lie and say you are allergic than to say I think you stink
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        06.23.08, 01:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I think that unless she really is allergic, it's a temporary situation that can be ignored
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        06.23.08, 01:10 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        but strong smells really bother some people. My sis is not allergic but she can't stand the smell either. Should she put up with that in her own house?
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        06.23.08, 01:10 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        no, if it bothers her then she should be honest. One can be honest and kind at the same time
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        06.23.08, 01:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        you could. I'm just saying this gives her an easy way to say something to the girl without embarrassing her. White lies like that grease the wheels of social interaction.
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        06.23.08, 01:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        if you really have an issue it isn't lame. if you are making one up it is.
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        06.23.08, 01:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        yes, I agree.
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        06.23.08, 01:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        a sitter is an employee. You can ask her to wear appropriate clothing or no perfume etc etc. Saying you are allergic is somewhat more kind than a few other options. It allows OP to tell her wishes without embarrasing the sitter
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        06.23.08, 01:10 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        and she's also a human being with feelings
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        06.23.08, 01:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        exactly my point
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        06.23.08, 01:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - perfumes give me a headache. close enough to an allergy for me
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        06.23.08, 01:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- that you're allergic...
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  06.23.08, 12:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- tell her you're allergic to perfumes and ask her to stop wearing it when she's working for you.
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  06.23.08, 12:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- tell her you have allergies to strong scents and ask her not to wear it. Not a big deal
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  06.23.08, 01:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- My MIL does this and my kids smell like her all time....THe allergy solution, mentioned above, is the best, and I wish i could say that to my MIL!
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  06.23.08, 01:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - you could suddenly develop them. It happens all the time;)
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    06.23.08, 01:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

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recently hired a young babysitter (19) who wears way too much perfume--so much that my kids have the scent on them after she leaves---what do I say? I don't want to offend her obviously

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ita

third this. It washes off, don't lie and make up some lame allergy excuse

np it's not lame. I get asthma if I'm around strong perfume very long. It does happen and its not lame

Then be kind and honest'

that's what I recomended to OP, sort of. I think it would be more kind to tell a white lie and say you are allergic than to say I think you stink

I think that unless she really is allergic, it's a temporary situation that can be ignored

but strong smells really bother some people. My sis is not allergic but she can't stand the smell either. Should she put up with that in her own house?

no, if it bothers her then she should be honest. One can be honest and kind at the same time

you could. I'm just saying this gives her an easy way to say something to the girl without embarrassing her. White lies like that grease the wheels of social interaction.

if you really have an issue it isn't lame. if you are making one up it is.

yes, I agree.

a sitter is an employee. You can ask her to wear appropriate clothing or no perfume etc etc. Saying you are allergic is somewhat more kind than a few other options. It allows OP to tell her wishes without embarrasing the sitter

and she's also a human being with feelings

exactly my point

perfumes give me a headache. close enough to an allergy for me

that you're allergic...

tell her you're allergic to perfumes and ask her to stop wearing it when she's working for you.

tell her you have allergies to strong scents and ask her not to wear it. Not a big deal

My MIL does this and my kids smell like her all time....THe allergy solution, mentioned above, is the best, and I wish i could say that to my MIL!

you could suddenly develop them. It happens all the time;)

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