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DH and I missed my sister's fiance's auf ruf for DH's best friend's 30th bday party. (who has auf ruf on Sat night?). Now sister is saying they may not make it to DS's bris. We have known for a while when DB is coming (scheduled) and we are not sure if it is a boy. Sister was supposed to be the godmother. Is this appropriate revenge for the auf ruf?
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06.20.08, 10:18 AM [ Flag ]
- wow, I have no idea what you are talking abouut. what is auf ruf??
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  06.20.08, 10:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - wtf is an auf ruf?!!!
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    06.20.08, 10:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - was going to ask, but figured everyone else knew. lol!
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      06.20.08, 10:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - I have no idea either
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        06.20.08, 10:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - np - jewish ceremony before the wedding. Groom publicly declares his intent to marry the bride, and says she is the choice of his heart
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      06.20.08, 10:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - hm. that seems like kind of a big deal to miss for your sister.
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        06.20.08, 10:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        wow - jewish and never ehard of that. to me a bris is a much bigger deal then a f-king auf ruf
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        06.20.08, 10:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        right, but they missed it to go to a birthday party.
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        06.20.08, 10:36 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        then they need to hash it out.
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        06.20.08, 10:37 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        ^^ however, i am not saying that missing the bris is appropriate revenge.
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        06.20.08, 10:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        in retrospect, DS's bris means more to me than DHs aufruf, but at the time, it was an important event. If op did not support her sister, i understand the sister not wanting to be there for her. Petty, but understandable, imo. Being a family means showing up for the events that matter
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        06.20.08, 10:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        well stated.
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        06.20.08, 10:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- She is being petty and childish, but you should have gone to your future BILs aufruf, even if DH went to the party. Family comes before friends, imo
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  06.20.08, 10:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - np - ask her if this is why she isn't coming to the bris. this is your child and her nephew. needs to grow up
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    06.20.08, 10:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Seems a bit inappropriate for you to miss such a big thing in your sister's life for a bday party.... It's also inappropriate for her to retaliate in that way, but I think what you did was hurtful...
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  06.20.08, 10:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Personally if you didn't support your sister I can understand her being upset. But if she is doing this as revenge without saying she was unhappy then I think it's pretty petty.
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  06.20.08, 10:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - np - her loss if she misses the bris over spite
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    06.20.08, 10:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - ita - she can't expect to be Godmother if she isn't even turning up. I would try sorting this out before it causes long term family arguments.
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      06.20.08, 10:37 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Did you apologize for missing the auf ruf? Did you know in advance that she really cared about it? Why on earth would you choose dh's bf over your own sister?
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Posted June 5, 2008 (50 replies)

wow, I have no idea what you are talking abouut. what is auf ruf??

wtf is an auf ruf?!!!

was going to ask, but figured everyone else knew. lol!

I have no idea either

np - jewish ceremony before the wedding. Groom publicly declares his intent to marry the bride, and says she is the choice of his heart

hm. that seems like kind of a big deal to miss for your sister.

wow - jewish and never ehard of that. to me a bris is a much bigger deal then a f-king auf ruf

right, but they missed it to go to a birthday party.

then they need to hash it out.

^^ however, i am not saying that missing the bris is appropriate revenge.

in retrospect, DS's bris means more to me than DHs aufruf, but at the time, it was an important event. If op did not support her sister, i understand the sister not wanting to be there for her. Petty, but understandable, imo. Being a family means showing up for the events that matter

well stated.

She is being petty and childish, but you should have gone to your future BILs aufruf, even if DH went to the party. Family comes before friends, imo

np - ask her if this is why she isn't coming to the bris. this is your child and her nephew. needs to grow up

Seems a bit inappropriate for you to miss such a big thing in your sister's life for a bday party.... It's also inappropriate for her to retaliate in that way, but I think what you did was hurtful...

Personally if you didn't support your sister I can understand her being upset. But if she is doing this as revenge without saying she was unhappy then I think it's pretty petty.

np - her loss if she misses the bris over spite

ita - she can't expect to be Godmother if she isn't even turning up. I would try sorting this out before it causes long term family arguments.

Did you apologize for missing the auf ruf? Did you know in advance that she really cared about it? Why on earth would you choose dh's bf over your own sister?

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