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Anyone have a surprise pregnancy here? One that was a huge surprise - bad timing - very life-altering? I am currently the mother of a 20yo dd, 18yo ds and 14yo dd. DH and I have been married for 21 years and the last few years have been a downward spiral - we discussed divorce many times and we felt we should try our best to repair things, atleast until our youngest was in college. We had a good stretch for awhile - thus my being 6 months pregnant - but I cannot see us lasting. I am just really nervous about this pregnancy and what happens from here.
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]are you feeling connected to the db at all? would you ever consider giving up for adoption?
[ Reply | Options ]wow... I feel for you... Do you feel sort of trapped now ? or maybe the opposite? empowered to make a change for the better within your marriage or by leaving it ?
[ Reply | Options ]I don't even know - I feel like I should stay in the marriage and that this is telling me to be strong til death do us part, but other days I feel like this child came into my life to tell me to part ways and give him a happier life than I have been able to give my older children the last few years
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I talk to two close friends about it, but until now, no one knew about how bad things had gotten
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DH and I were completely disconnected, preparing for divorce in the future, practically counting down the days - it reached a point where we didn't even hate each other anymore, we just had no feeling or emotion about anything. We got married extremely young, sometimes I feel like our marriage was based more on sex and physical attraction than actual love. Once we started having kids is when things changed a bit. I was 18 when we married and he was 23 - obviously too young to really know what love is in my opinion. There has just been a lack of marriage/partnership/communication/trust.
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We haven't even had what I would consider a good, productive conversation about it. I don't feel that he is thrilled about this at all - it is going to be another 18 year commitment tying us together regardless of what path we follow.
[ Reply | Options ]i am so sorry for your bad situation... have the older kids chimed in with their thoughts ? They must know that the marriage is rocky...
[ Reply | Options ]well currently my oldest daughter is in miami interning for the summer, my son is on a cross country roadtrip with my nephews and my 14yo is just trying to help me by being overly sweet and pretending everything is ok; it is tough having the family all dispersed until the end of july/early august
[ Reply | Options ]wow... what do your friends say know that you've laid out the issues with them ? Are your parents still alove and do they have any thoughts or support to offer ?
[ Reply | Options ]My parents are alive - they've been married since they were both 21 and they have the perfect marriage. My friends are in shock over this all, to an extent - they said they knew something was up, but had no idea it was this extreme or developed to this level. I have only given my parents the sugar-coatd version
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