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not much imagination then? (and fwiw, i am not cheating on dh. if i ever fuck anothe rman, it'll be with his ok and knowledge)
[ Reply | Options ]interesting.... I can't imagine dh ever being ok with me sleeping with another...
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Don't know what to do. He seems to be uninterested in sex & I'm tired of begging him. I've never had to beg for sex ever! I'm going crazy & I'm not a fan of a vibrator.
[ Reply | Options ]that's a tough one. dh and I have sex about 3-4 times a week. most of the time, he's the initiator. I'm really sorry you're going through this, because as much as I love dh, that would be really hard for me to deal with.
[ Reply | Options ]It's extremely hard. He is the first person I have ever been loyal to and (as awful as this sounds) this is what I get?! I upkeep myself for him, and for what? I miss having a guy touch me. What the hell can I do?
[ Reply | Options ]Would he be open to therapy? Also, and I hate to ask, are you sure he's not cheating?
[ Reply | Options ]That was my first thought. But I don't think so. I'm 20 years younger than him. Maybe he's lost his mojo? I wouldn't know how to bring up therapy w/o hurting his ego? SOOO jealous of your 3-4 times a week :(
[ Reply | Options ]I think that bringing up therapy is less of an ego blow than if you end up cheating. It probably is the way to go, if only for your own peace of mind. It's definitely possible that he's just lost that spark, but it's also possible to get that back.
[ Reply | Options ]One last bit of advice before I head off to bed. If it is this hard for you to talk about, maybe you should write it in a letter. If nothing else, it will help you frame your thoughts better for the conversation, and if you find the conversation really is too hard, than you can give him the letter.
[ Reply | Options ]Don't know if you're still there... but I finally said something last night! & I got a nice surprise this morning + an apology for being neglected. At one point I said "I need attention from someone & if you don't want me to cheat" which I wish I didn't say, but he replied with "don't threaten me, I'm under a lot of stress... I won't neglect you, it'll be better..." I believe him. I feel better for letting him know how I feel. Let's see how things go! Thx for listening.
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