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I told my brother about the discussions about his having 2 children with 2 different women and a pregnant fling now. He said that we just want to force him into marriage and don't understand his need to have fun until he finds the right woman.
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honestly, I don't even know what to say. His "need to have fun" is going to cost him an arm and a leg in child support. Tell him that condoms are cheaper.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: DH told him that....actually DH went out and bought him a lot of condoms when he told us about the third pregnancy and then demonstrated how to put one on!
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OP: actually, and I know this sounds fake, but it did happen. DH came back with the condoms, told my brother that showing him with a banana or something wouldn't do. He took me and my brother into teh other room, dropped his pants and boxers and showed my brother how to put one on.
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honestly though - who would sleep with this guy? If I met a guy who had 3 children with 3 different women (none of who he married) - I would run as fast as I could in the other direction.
[ Reply | Options ]do you think he tells them? most girls would assume a 24 yr old single guys doesn't have kids
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I don't know to be honest. The current girl was a fling he met at a wedding in early March and has been seeing occasionally since then....he said he didn't see it as anything with a future. So I am guessing no. I know the second motehr knew about the first kid, since she was his girlfriend when she got pregnant.
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tell him the only need he has is to grow the hell up and bag it. Condoms don't cost much but raising dc and paying support does. He can also pay with his life. He hasn't heard of STD's?
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OP: LOL I know......my brother actually said that if he sees a girl a lot in bars or her friends in bars, or that they know the same bartenders, he knows she's a good girl and someone he wants to spend time with. He makes no sense!
[ Reply | Options ]Your brother is a spoiled, immature, brat. And, by giving him $ so he can have "fun," your parents are enabling him.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I know, I know.......he needs to learn and you'd think he'd have learned with his first son. Now he's on number 3
[ Reply | Options ]Honestly - you need to remove yourself from this situation. It's sweet that as his older sister you care. But frankly, his lifestyle is toxic. I know he's young but he clearly doesn't learn from his mistakes.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: It's tough. I really want to help him through this and help him realize what he's done. He does see and support his kids and is a good father, but he needs to grow up. He talks about wanting to marry and settle down and have a family in a few years. Now he has 3 kids, then what, he'll have 3 more.....for 6? It's insane.
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OK - how did you know that his parents support him? I think that you are the OP responding to your own posts.
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OP: He was there when my brother came over the other day to tell us about number 3 and DH was just upset by how insane the whole thing is. He thinks my brother needs to grow up and behave like a man and not a teenager like he is. My DH cares a lot about my brother and his own brothers.....it's one of the qualities I love most about DH.
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