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  • i'm fixated. if your dc is playing in someone's house and wants the toy the other kid is playing, is it ok to ask for it? is it just a park thing b/c it's a stranger? or is it the asking that is not ok?

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    06.02.08, 01:44 PM [ Flag ]

    • Apparently, if you are in NYC, your kid should just wait patiently. In the rest of the civilized world, you can ask for a turn. Even on the playground.

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      06.02.08, 01:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • if your child lacks the creativity and inititative to play with a 2nd toy at someone's house, you should leave. Two children will fight the entire playdate over just one toy.

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        06.02.08, 01:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • I thought part of the point was to teach sharing? If child #1 can't learn to share a toy, good luck in school.

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          06.02.08, 01:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • i believe this ia a giant miscommunication. at 2 years old, on a playdate, sharing is allowing a different child to come to your house and play with your toys..which is challenging enough. if that 2nd child wants to play with teh ONE toy your child is playing with, that will quickly become sticky. And please dont tell me your two year old will hand over the ONE toy they are currently playing with. Sharing means many things.

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            06.02.08, 01:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • the point is that they don't have to fight. you ask for the next turn and then wait for it.

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          06.02.08, 01:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • If the other child is playing with a toy, tell your child to find a different toy to play with. my goodness, sharing is not a natural instinct and teaching your child to find a new activity is a lesson in itself.

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      06.02.08, 01:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • HUGE difference between a public resource and someone's private home/toys.

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      06.02.08, 01:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • b/c it's a stranger or b/c it doesn't belong to anyone?

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        06.02.08, 02:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • because it is a SHARED COMMUNITY, PUBLIC RESOURCE. and it is the courteous thing to be aware of the needs of others in a community setting. that's what helps us all not kill each other in high population density settings like NYC.

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          06.02.08, 02:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • so you are saying that it's ok or it's not ok to ask? or are you saying that people should be aware but it's not ok to ask.?

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            06.02.08, 02:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I didn't see the original post, but on the playground or in my house you share. You can play with a toy, but if you have had it for a while and someone else wants to play with, they should ask politely and you should let them have a turn. is this not how the world functions (at least theoretically?)

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      06.02.08, 01:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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