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Wait a minute. i really don't understand. a woman telling her own daughter to ask for a turn on the swing is overbearing? or did i miss something about that post?
43 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Apparently the OP (and several other responders) believe that it's just fine to stay on a swing for an unlimited amount of time even when others are waiting - and that those who believe otherwise are "entitled". A little pot/kettle, imho.
[ Reply | Options ]I am the OP from the swing post and I specifically wrote that the child swinging was NOT on for an excessively long time. So, there was no reason the child could not continue to wait. There is a big diff. The child swinging was just doing what you are supposed to be doing on a swing. Not abusing it.
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Yes, it's overbearing to ask because you should have manners and just wait. Do you just cut to the front of the line at the store because you want to? Same thing with the park. You teach your kid patience and it will go a long way.
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NP: Listen I would agree with you if it were anywhere but Central Park. There are 100s of children in and out all day and honestly, there has NEVER been an unavailable swing. So if a little girl is waiting for a very specific swing, it would make a whole lot more sense for her mom to tell her to wait patiently, or to get her over that weird swing fetish. We have tons of available swings..thats why it is so weird.
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But again, in Central Park, this little girl will have a very hard time if she always needs one particular swing. A better lesson for her would be that sharing in Central Park means trying out all sorts of new swings and swingsets because if every child wanted a turn on one swing, the city would fall apart...No really.
[ Reply | Options ]for me, the issue isn't what's reasonable for this child to want. the question was whether or not the other mom was being overbearing and if asking is the same as demanding. and i think the answer to both is no. why would you think the answer is yes? and secondly, just b/c someone is asking does not mean your child has to say yes. even if it was a demand, your dc does not have to listen to some other kid's demands.
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I haven't noticed in any of this a discussion of how lone the kid was waiting before askind/how long the line is. I'm reserving judgement. -nnp
[ Reply | Options ]i don't think it's really relevant. for two reasons. if the kid walked up and found someone on the swing, she has no idea how long the swinger has been swinging. and secondly, there is nothing wrong with asking. teach your children to take their turns and then share, adn then this whole thing wouldn't even be an issue.
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