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in total panic. yesterday when i got home, my nanny told me that at on the way home from the playground 4yo dd ran ahead of her and when she caught up, raised her voice at her. nanny was upset with her own actions and told me that she was very sorry -- but dd had never run ahead before and she totally scared her. i told nanny that it was understandable and i would talk to dd. spoke to dd when dh got home about running ahead and she told us that nanny yelled at her because she was scared. this morning, dd brought the topic up again -- told us that she wanted to go to the park and promised not to run ahead because she did not like being yelled at (we are not yellers!) and GRABBED the way nanny grabbed her. i asked dd to show me and she grabbed me by the shoulders -- really hard -- and then showed me how nanny held her arm (not hand) the rest of the walk home.
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]i would not have a problem with this at all. your nanny was scared and did the right thing.
[ Reply | Options ]thank you all! we had a horrible experience with our original nanny -- and this one has been amazing -- i guess the first experience is making me overly sensitive.
[ Reply | Options ]having your child run away from you in a city is one of the scariest things, i think the fact that she told you is great, so you could talk to dc. i would have to control myself from a spank if my dc did this
[ Reply | Options ]You probably would have done the exact same thing in the nanny's shoes. Be thankful the nanny communicated this with you.
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I don't see any reason to panic. I don't even see any reason to be concerned. When my child ran ahead of me on a busy nyc street, I yelled and grabbed his arm when I caught up to him too. If I hadn't grabbed him, he would have continued running. He thought it was funny to run away. Your nanny behaved exactly like I did.
[ Reply | Options ]sounds like you actually have a very good nanny whose number one concern is teaching your child how to be safe and how to listen. I've held my ds arm rather than hand in the same situation, because a hand slips out of your grasp easily and if the child is apt to run then it might be safer...it isn't a regular thing, but if they are being rambunctious or not listening when it's dangerous,etc. Be glad the nanny told you about the incident also, because it means that she is trying to be on the same page as you.
[ Reply | Options ]i think the fact that your nanny raised this with you is a good sign. if there were other signs of grabbing or your dd being hurt, I'd be nervous, but it seems like your nanny reacted a certain way and was upset with what she did. being a nanny is a hard job-think about what moms go through, and this is their job-can be tough.
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