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  • I can't stand my SIL (who also married into dh's family). We are absolutely nothing alike, have very little in common. She's a girly-girl and you could say I'm au naturel.. How do I stop dreading every moment we're stuck next to eachother?

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    05.26.08, 05:14 PM [ Flag ]
    • is she a nice girly girl? You don't mention that. Try embracing your differences. Maybe your kids will get a dif perspective on life

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      05.26.08, 05:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Try checking your contempt. Try to find points of connection rather than difference. Gossip about your husbands. Admire each other's children.

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      05.26.08, 05:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I can't stand mine either. I'm no fashion plate but I'm decent - she only wears Disney logo-d clothing and their only vacations are to theme parks - ie legoland, Hershey park, Disney, etc. She is 42 yo.

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      05.26.08, 05:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • so all of your friends are exactly like you? That's very telling if you can't appreciate someone who isn't just like you.

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      05.26.08, 05:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • No, my friends are much more intellectually astute, easier to hold a conversation with. I can't seem to pull anything out of this woman to talk about!

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        05.26.08, 05:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • DH's friend has a wife like that - bless her heart, I have to ask about her cats all the time.

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          05.26.08, 05:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • well that's a totally different story then how I read your post. If she's dumb, prissy and generally annoying, then you are in for a looooooong haul with her. Is there ANY redeeming quality about her? Any kind of common ground you can just chit-chat w/her about when you have to see her? Do you guys spend that much time together?

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          05.26.08, 05:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • We really don't spend too much time together, but I still find myself dreading family functions. We both work in education. That's it as far as commonalities.

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            05.26.08, 05:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • ok, so just blather on about that for a few minutes and then excuse yourself to use the bathroom and go sit next to someone else!!! Or just drink a lot.

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              05.26.08, 05:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • That's usually what happens. She's not a bad person, so I kind of feel bad for disliking her to the extent that I do. I guess there is some leftover resentment about the way she treated me at their wedding. DH was the best man and I did not show up in ONE photo.

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                05.26.08, 05:27 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • were you married at the time?

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                  05.26.08, 05:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                  • No, this was about two years before our wedding. At my wedding, I HAD to include her in pics because she was BM's WIFE!

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                    05.26.08, 05:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                    • well if you weren't married or engaged etiquette (sp) says that you shouldn't include in the major wedding pics (the ones for the album, etc) b/c if you break up it's very strange to have to look at that person. However, if you weren't in ANY of the pictures at all, any of the 600 that are taken at a wedding, that is very strange and very rude, imo.

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                      05.26.08, 05:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                      • Yes, you got it right. In fact, I had to ask the lead photographer to take a standalone shot of the two of us. The only other photos I was in were the bouquet toss - I caught it.

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                        05.26.08, 05:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I am pleasant, but try to avoid her as much as possible. I just have to be nice to her when I see her--I do not have to be her friend.

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      05.26.08, 05:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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