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  • I had a miscarriage the last time I was pregnant so this time around I didn't want to shout out the news until I was farther along. I found out at 4 wks and only told my husband, mom and cousin (who is like a sister) and asked them not to tell people yet. Mom and cousin have told EVERYONE in our whole family and friends of our family and I am not even 7wks yet. Should I say something to them? I don't know what to say but I am really annoyed.

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    05.23.08, 10:13 AM [ Flag ]

    • oy. did you tell them that you weren't telling anyone yet? I would have a conversation with them, although they will probably "not get it".

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      05.23.08, 10:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • YES! I did: Please don't tell anyone I am not saying anything until I am 12 wks, because last time was awful. UGH! I am NEVER telling them anything again.

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        05.23.08, 10:16 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I would be livid! You should say something

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      05.23.08, 10:17 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • What should I say?

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        05.23.08, 10:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • Say you are really hurt. You trusted them to keep this quiet so you don't have to deal with the situation that happened last time. I find it is more effective to tell people how disappointed and hurt you are - rather than telling them that you are angry. And if you are still debating it I would definitely say something because otherwise it will just boil up into something bigger.

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          05.23.08, 10:24 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • I would explain that is a sensitive time for you and you wanted to keep it private. What were they thinking not respecting your wishes?

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          05.23.08, 10:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • that sucks but I don't know if it would be worth it to say anything. Not much they acn do to fix it at this point. I would just be more careful about it next time there is something you don't want generally known. I guess you can only tell DH and us. Sorry

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      05.23.08, 10:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Plus when I asked my cousin about it do you know what she said? She the people she had told had guessed it and so she just told them they were right. What the crap. No one even knew we were trying why would someone randomly guess that?

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        05.23.08, 10:28 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • that is weird. I'm guessing she is feeling guilty (as well she should) Say something if it will make you feel better, but it might just cause more probs than it solves. Congrats on the pg.

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          05.23.08, 10:30 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I had a similar situation. People just don't get that m/c is desvastating. One good friend, who pushed until I finally caved, went out of her way to tell me she didn't tell anyone (ie when people asked her), but found out that she'd told EVERYONE. I now know that I can't trust some of the people I thought I could. Lesson learned!

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      05.23.08, 10:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Agreed! It is sad when it is your own mother though.

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        05.23.08, 10:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • Yeah, its sad when its your mom but she must be so excited! my mom asked me if she could tell one person, because she had to tell someone (and not call me every 5 seconds).

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          05.23.08, 10:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • of course say something. that is SO rude. #1 you asked them not to and had good reason. #2 that is YOUR news to tell when you are ready.

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      05.23.08, 10:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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