Re: MIL who uses dessert as a means to get the children to finish their meals. My computer completely froze so, I am posting my answer here in case the original thread is already dead: I totally agree with your concerns. You are going to have to step in on two fronts - - first with the children and then with her. She won't understand your issues tho because what she is doing has been done for generations. It is a relatively old school mind set. So, before you approach her, put yourself in her shoes ("my mother did this to me, her mother did it before that, etc.") and approach it from an perspective that doesn't undermine her history (i.e., implying that there is something wrong with her and worse.. her mother) so that she doesn't get defensive. Sorry I missed this point btw. It must have been really frustrating to talk to me.

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