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Am I silly to even consider private ongoing for ds since I will need major FA to do so? I am open to applying all over the city and will move if the commute isn't great, but I also don't want to waste anyones time if getting aid isn't an option. Income $100K. Single parent.
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No, you are not silly. Ongoing schools offer FA for a reason and 10-20% of students get FA at most schools we've looked at. I have a client who tried to talk her very bright daughter out of applying to boarding school bc she's a single parent making $50K and could not fathom how it could be affordable. Well, her daughter got a nearly full ride, I believe her mom contributes less than $5K to the total cost of $35K. She's so happy her daughter insisted on applying.
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If you can, have DC take the ERBs over the summer. If your DC scores well and interviews well - sky's the limit.
[ Reply | Options ]I just cannot imagine doing that. find a good public and spend time with your kid, showing him you can actually afford him, that you are not poor victims getting a free ride and that he will be fine not having the fanciest of the fancy
[ Reply | Options ]ITA! I just couldn't make my kids see me as needing a handout since I earn $100K per year and have worked very hard to do that. Feel it would complicate the image my kids have of me as a single mom. would not feel strong and capable in their eyes. I am an MD, btw.
[ Reply | Options ]You cant be serious. How exactly are you needing a handout? FA is an available option for ALL families. I would hope your kids would see that you had their best interest at heart when you put them in private school. Instead put them in Gen Ed, I'm sure you'll be quite amazed at what you see.
[ Reply | Options ]np; you know, it's not like you are a beggar at a private if your dc gets scholarship. It's the school that wants to add socioeconomic diversity to their school to benefit them. I totally disagree. There are many kids on scholarship who would tell you they are very happy and many families that are not paranoid like you.
[ Reply | Options ]np. i'm sorry but "socioeconomic diversity" (by which you actually mean "economic diversity") is a crock of sh&t. there's nothing about poor people my dc needs to learn from a classmate. btdt, but actually managed to pull myself up by my bootstraps.
[ Reply | Options ]OR: I don't really care what other familes think, nor do I feel paranoid about it. I am a well educated woman who has worked very hard. I am not poor, and cannot justify to MYSELF taking aid to educate my dcs. I feel it sets a bad example for them, and t goes against the values I want to teach them. If someone needs real help, then fine. If not, you make decisions to afford what fits your ability to pay. I feel that is a worthy thing to teach, and could care less about others
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this is just ridiculous. Find a good public? You need to live in a very $$$$ school zone for a good public and even the good publics are now overcrowded and not a guarantee anymore (like PS 41 moving to a lottery). Getting FA for a school is not showing your dc anything. Why should you tell your dc that they are there on aid? BTW FA doesn't mean full ride. Private doesn't mean fancy either.
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You won't be able to afford rent in good gen ed zone with that income. I looked into PS87 rental for 2BR, and it was well over $4,000 a month. You could try to G&T if you have a super smart/good tester kid. But why not apply to private and public and see which option you end up with? You may NOT have any option in this tough environment... I'm sad to say.
[ Reply | Options ]OP will change her mind once she takes a good look at local zoned public. She will be running to interviews trying to land a good private. If you havent been paying attention DOE is a nightmare and only those fortunate enough to live in excellent districts benefit from the best that the DOE has to offer. EVERYBODY else falls by the wayside.
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Definitely consider independent schools--they give millions of dollars in aid. You should be prepared to answer questions if there is another parent--schools want to know who will be responsible and may factor in the other salary. They expect both parents, married or not, to contribute to the child's education. (I'm a single, adoptive parent who receives aid, btw.)
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