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  • Would you want your nanny to tell you if dc had missed you more than usual that day/week or keep it to herself so as not to make you feel bad? i'm a nanny and my boss has worked very long hours the last few weeks and only seen her DD maybe 30 minutes a day not counting weekends and her DD is jumping at every noise and yelling "mama!" and i have to tell her it's not mama and then she gets very sad and needs lots of cuddles.

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    05.16.08, 01:39 PM [ Flag ]

    • If she asks, be honest. She needs to know.

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      05.16.08, 01:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • oh god i could cry. tell her.

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      05.16.08, 01:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • just tell the mom that dd has been missing her more than usual -- see if she asks for details.

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      05.16.08, 01:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • i would just let her know that she DD noticed you worked longer hours this week

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      05.16.08, 01:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • op: That sounds passive agressive, like i'm saying that i noticed she worked longer hours. Her hours haven't affected my hours as her family has pitched in and come over in the evenings to let me go home.

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        05.16.08, 01:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • It all depends on your relationship with the mother and what's she's like. If you think she feels guilty as hell anyway, I'd not do it. Actually, it's hard to think of a way you could do this that wouldn't sound like judging -- and who wants to be judged by their nanny? If you genuinely think there's something going on, perhaps you could say "X hasn't been herself this past week." and see how the mom responds.

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      05.16.08, 01:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • It's best for the dc to tell her, but she'll be defensive and be mad at you for it, most likely.

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      05.16.08, 01:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Her DD is not even two yet and can't tell her she missed her.

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        05.16.08, 01:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • I dont think its bad to tell, just prepare yourself for defensiveness. That's all. She'll tell you why she HAD to work... blah blah blah.

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          05.16.08, 01:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • Oh i know all the details of her job and where she's been/what she's been doing. As i said above her working longer hours hasn't affected my hours at all, so it's not like she can take it as I'm saying I don't like her longer hours or anything.

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            05.16.08, 01:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • There's a sensitive way to say it that will prevent mom from getting angry, I think; something like, "Your little girl sure loves her mom -- she's been asking about you all the time the last few weeks. She can't wait for you to come home and talks about you all day."

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        05.16.08, 01:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • If she asks how dd was, say she really seems to miss her mommy but she's fine.

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      05.16.08, 01:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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