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question about VERY young DC with ADHD - 12 to 24 months. in your experience were these children super super smart? just way ahead of the pack? my DS who i suspect to be ADHD is insanely bright - don't gag - everyone always mentions it. BUT i don't actually think he is smart at all, I think he picks up things faster because he is so on the go - he can not leave a book unturned or a cupboard closed or stair case unclimbed. he explores everything constantly. anyone have any opinion or experience on this? can early adhd be mistaken for smartness?
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np: it can't be diagnosed until school age. that doesn't mean the kids don't have it before then.
[ Reply | Options ]This is the correct answer people!!! No, it isn't common to dx a baby, and you certainly can't medicate a baby. But that 7 year old who is dx , correctly, WAS ADHD as a baby.
[ Reply | Options ]THANK YOU!!! And Moms/Dads who see that something is going on can learn how to deal with it better. I was impatient w/my ds and regret it now. If I had understood, I could have done better.
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OMG - seriously. As someone who actually HAD adhd, I feel so badly for both this mom and her child. OP, he's just a baby. Please don't start looking for problems.
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if you post only on special needs, you won't get all the ignorant comments. FYI. My ds is now 8. He was super verbal, and talked constantly. So yes, everyone thought he was brilliant. He is very smart.
[ Reply | Options ]comments are ignorant, i was told they would not diagnose add/adhd until the child was older.
[ Reply | Options ]interesting thanks. so at 18 was he very "advanced" for his age? my DS from 14 mo could pick everything out on books, follow all commands like get the keys.where are your shoes. very very early.
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why on earth would you label a child so young. and fwiw ALL toddlers explore constantly, it's kind of what they're known for
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so strange. and nothing she is saying is really an indiactor of abnormal toddler behavior
[ Reply | Options ]i know, she sounds like my screwball sil who loves putting her kids on meds. her own dh had to step in and the idiot finally got HER some help, it was sad
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it was really sad too see. my mil was going nuts and so was her brother. no one knew what to do. her dd was such a mess it broke everyone's heart. what disgusts me the most is that there are some DR's who c;ear;y don't care and just hand out meds like candy
[ Reply | Options ]the doctors kill me!! in the pockets of the big pharma companies and they just sigh and tear off another scrip.
[ Reply | Options ]yeah, it really needs to stop. maybe that's why i am very against treating add/adhd with drugs because from what i have read it is misdiagnosed a lot
[ Reply | Options ]and especially with boys. we, as a society, ahave tried to feminize our boys so much that the second they do anything remotely boy like we jump to label them and then try to make them more sensitive!
[ Reply | Options ]what do adhd meds have to do with feminizing boys? it's not like we give them hormones. And are you aware that plenty of girls have exactly the same problems?
[ Reply | Options ]I know dozens of kids with AD/HD, and no one was dealing with 'normal' behavior. They were dealing with kids who wanted to do things but couldn't, who were unable to read nonverbal cues and ostracized, who couldn't keep up with the rules of a game in sports...it's not normal, and it isn't a way to live.
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they are not "in the pocket" of big pharma. The meds really work, and are life-changing for people.
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lots of sn kids with certain types of Lerning disabilites are extremely verbal and adult in their converstaion, or have those kinds of steel trap brains. but i still don't think you wnat to be diagnosing your own child, see a specialist if it will help. 2 yo is really too young, there is so much variability is development at that age.
[ Reply | Options ]thanks for your post. im not diagnosing him but having lives with this all my life and seen it - i can see it a mile off, if you know what I mean. ive been posting about this for a while now. he is simply NOT like other babies. im around babies all day and not a single one even comes close to daring to do what he does - there is busy and then there is pathological. im just trying to work out if other people experienced this. how any sort of early intervention helped etc etc the venom posts I get back are typical and just remind me how hard this is going to be.
[ Reply | Options ]i think you should really ask your ped for an EI recommendation. I know you are aroudn babies lal day- i am aroudn teenagers all day, but i can tell you that the way i freak out about my own's family's teens is way beyond how i react to the other kids - sometimes it is just too hard to ebobjective. not thatyou are wrong, i just think you cna't get a diagnosis of adhd this early, and anyone who tries to give you one isn't doing thier job! you can ask some people how to create focus in kids that age- not al day, just for a few nminutes a few times a day. do you work with babies in a daycare, where you can maybe discuss with a teacher there?
[ Reply | Options ]np: sounds to me like you WANT something to be different about him. just like my mom was always making up illneses for me so she could be the martyr mom. I was treated for a blood disorder that I never had and she would go on to everyone about how hwrd it was to have a "different" child. maybe some therapy for yourself would be good
[ Reply | Options ]np - just to mention it, my ds was always the same way and EVERYONE commented on it, from friends to relatives to teachers, everyone. But, now that he's older, he's normaled out. He isn't as remarkable anymore, just a standard kid who took a while to grow into himself. GL.
[ Reply | Options ]thanks! ive been waiting months to hear a story like this. so are you saying you had an unusually active kid (and unusually is understatement for me) who you were worried about who did end up able to cope/go to school etc without meds (im hoping so much for this). was his early behaviour terrifying for you? did you do anything in those early years to try to to help hi to focus, stay on one task etc?
[ Reply | Options ]Very active, and unusually verbal. Fully conversational at 18mos, and definitely "little professor" like with big vocab. I asked many docs about ADHD and they all said it was too early and I was a worrywort. And it turned out to be true. He does have some behavioral problems in school, but no meds, no special ed, all top grades and not too much disciplinary action. Don't laugh, but karate was a huge huge help in the focus department.
[ Reply | Options ]thanks. it's funny because everyone I talk to over here talks about karate too. even the doc. he is too young now but i'll 100% try. this is the sort of thing im looking for - people who have had this and its turned out OK. and im willing to do whatever it takes to avoid meds. its that that im scared of the most. i just keep thinking ther must be some early intervention you can do to minimalize the effects.
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he could be a sensory seeker. he might have sensory issues and not adhd. just something to think about. my dd is like this and she has a fabulous developmental ped who says he can't diagnose adhd at this point (3) but it is certainly on his list of concerns
[ Reply | Options ]yes this is on his doc's list too. thanks for the reply. ADHD runs deep in the family and given his behaviour so far they think the chances are high. just want to be doing all i can sooner and in the US there seems to be more info out there so i keep trying to find posers who maybe dealt with what I am dealing with. its hard having people post "normal" in reply. you'll just have to trust me that there is absolutely nothing normal about his constancy, inability to sit - even for 30 seconds - at ANY time during the day. not once does he stop. not one single time. and he just explodes if you try to stop him. he is now (sadly) eating on the go, even. pacing.
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OP, I am in the exact same boat you are. My DS is now 2.5 and has been this way pretty much since birth. Completely nonstop, totally unable to sit still even for 30 seconds at a time. We've been concerned all along because we recognize that his behavior is extreme, even by toddler standards. Like yours, ours is extremely verbal and very bright. 2 is generally too young to diagnose ADHD. I do wonder if our ds is sensory-seeking and plan to discuss it with the ped at the next visit.
[ Reply | Options ]you have to be careful not to stereotype your dc. becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. if you think he is ADHD, then there is a good chance that he could force him in this direction. try to be open to different possiblilites. try to be open to the fact that there is nothing wrong with him at all.
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