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Fucking shit. Dh is cheating, we're separating, I might be pg. I've thought so for a week and haven't had the nerve to test.
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05.12.08, 08:55 PM [ Flag ]
- well honey, you only have yourself to blame, because three weeks ago, you should not have DONE THAT!!
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  05.12.08, 08:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - wow, you are so not helpful. why judge the actions of others in this situation?
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    05.12.08, 08:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - evil. she probably didn't know her dh was cheating three months ago.
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    05.12.08, 08:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - ^^oops, weeks. or months. whatever. she didn't know.
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      05.12.08, 08:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - see what i mean with the "honey"? anyway, that sucks. what are you going to do?
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    05.12.08, 08:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Not keep it. But have no idea how I will be able to handle all this. Can't even imagine getting through all the actions it will require.
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      05.12.08, 09:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - take one step at a time. take the test so you can get rid of that uncertainty
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        05.12.08, 09:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I will take one tomorrow. And report back... though the old board would have been more comforting to return to!
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        05.12.08, 09:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        no kidding. when it rains it pours :) how did you find out he was cheating?
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        05.12.08, 09:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        There were lots of sketchy texts/emails, but I rationalized for awhile. Finally confronted him, he was honest, he'd slept with 4 women in 6 weeks.
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        05.12.08, 09:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        holy shit
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        05.12.08, 09:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        He's always been hypersexual, and I've bent over backward to meet his unique needs. It kills me that it was in vain. I feel so deceived. I really thought I/our family was what he wanted.
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        05.12.08, 09:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        oh my god. he admitted that? that sucks so much, so sorry. test and report back, I have to go to bed now!
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        05.12.08, 09:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        horrendous. this guy has massive issues.
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        05.12.08, 09:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        np - sounds like he was trying to get caught
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        05.12.08, 09:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        Ai ai ai ai ai. I have nothing constructive to add ..... can only say, what a terrible situation. Best of luck, whatever you choose to do.
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        05.12.08, 10:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - keeping or not keeping will both be hard. just weigh your choices carefully b/c both come with regrets. GL to you.
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        05.12.08, 09:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - will you consider keeping it?
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        05.12.08, 09:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        No. I can't imagine carrying his child while he does other women with disregard for me and our dcs. I made it clear that I was leaving him and he made it clear that he has no intention of fighting for us.
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        05.12.08, 09:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I'm sorry. You're in a terrible spot. I hope you're able to get yourself and dcs out of the relationship quickly and as painlessly as is possible.
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        05.12.08, 09:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        Thank you. That is the plan. I've been spending about 6 hours a day on the phone with my parents... haha
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        05.12.08, 09:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        i'm not a lawyer, but people are always giving the advice on here that the mom should not leave the primary residence. don't really know how much it matters, but you may want to consult a lawyer before moving out. will he go easily perhaps??
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        05.12.08, 09:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        why would the unborn child have to suffer the consequences of his actions?
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        05.12.08, 09:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- so sorry. and what awful timing.
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  05.12.08, 08:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- you may be late due to stress. but not taking the test is making the stress worse. just test and get it over with so that you know what you are dealing with
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  05.12.08, 08:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - fwiw, you would only be late if you were stressed pre-ovulation (stress can delay ovulation), but time after ovulation is pretty consistent.
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    05.12.08, 09:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Abort
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  05.12.08, 08:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - i'm not saying she shouldn't but that's bold advice given the amount of info we have. i'm not sure that woul dbe my course. i'd consider leaving dh but keeping db esp if i already had another by dh.
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    05.12.08, 09:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

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Fucking shit. Dh is cheating, we're separating, I might be pg. I've thought so for a week and haven't had the nerve to test.

well honey, you only have yourself to blame, because three weeks ago, you should not have DONE THAT!!

wow, you are so not helpful. why judge the actions of others in this situation?

evil. she probably didn't know her dh was cheating three months ago.

^^oops, weeks. or months. whatever. she didn't know.

see what i mean with the "honey"? anyway, that sucks. what are you going to do?

Not keep it. But have no idea how I will be able to handle all this. Can't even imagine getting through all the actions it will require.

take one step at a time. take the test so you can get rid of that uncertainty

I will take one tomorrow. And report back... though the old board would have been more comforting to return to!

no kidding. when it rains it pours :) how did you find out he was cheating?

There were lots of sketchy texts/emails, but I rationalized for awhile. Finally confronted him, he was honest, he'd slept with 4 women in 6 weeks.

holy shit

He's always been hypersexual, and I've bent over backward to meet his unique needs. It kills me that it was in vain. I feel so deceived. I really thought I/our family was what he wanted.

oh my god. he admitted that? that sucks so much, so sorry. test and report back, I have to go to bed now!

horrendous. this guy has massive issues.

np - sounds like he was trying to get caught

Ai ai ai ai ai. I have nothing constructive to add ..... can only say, what a terrible situation. Best of luck, whatever you choose to do.

keeping or not keeping will both be hard. just weigh your choices carefully b/c both come with regrets. GL to you.

will you consider keeping it?

No. I can't imagine carrying his child while he does other women with disregard for me and our dcs. I made it clear that I was leaving him and he made it clear that he has no intention of fighting for us.

I'm sorry. You're in a terrible spot. I hope you're able to get yourself and dcs out of the relationship quickly and as painlessly as is possible.

Thank you. That is the plan. I've been spending about 6 hours a day on the phone with my parents... haha

i'm not a lawyer, but people are always giving the advice on here that the mom should not leave the primary residence. don't really know how much it matters, but you may want to consult a lawyer before moving out. will he go easily perhaps??

why would the unborn child have to suffer the consequences of his actions?

so sorry. and what awful timing.

you may be late due to stress. but not taking the test is making the stress worse. just test and get it over with so that you know what you are dealing with

fwiw, you would only be late if you were stressed pre-ovulation (stress can delay ovulation), but time after ovulation is pretty consistent.

Abort

i'm not saying she shouldn't but that's bold advice given the amount of info we have. i'm not sure that woul dbe my course. i'd consider leaving dh but keeping db esp if i already had another by dh.

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